Feeding my newborn too often

Christina - posted on 11/13/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My baby girl is one month old today. At birth she weighed 6 lb 14 oz., but after a brief stay in the hospital, she lost about 7 oz. in the hospital nursery. She is drinking formula and I'm feeding her 4 oz. every three hours. She has been having gas (both stomach and intestinal) and is generally fussy in the evenings at different times for different periods of time. Due to my having a C-Section, my mother-in-law is staying with us for a short while to help out (especially with this being my first baby). Anytime little Natalie cries my mother-in-law insists that she's starving to death. At her two week checkup she had gained 8 oz. and grew 3/4 of an inch in length. She's definitely growing, and absolutely filling out. Even if she has eaten a full bottle an hour prior, my mother-in-law absolutely INSISTS on her getting another full bottle. I understand that babies feed, obviously, more frequently than we do, but both my husband and I have dealt with weight problems our entire lives and I don't want her having the same problems. I know by instinct (even being a new mommy) that she should NOT be eating that much that frequently. I do not want her think that every time she is upset that she will be consoled with a food. Am I wrong for following my instincts? Should I be feeding her more formula more frequently? If not, how do I instill that she is MY child and I feel like I know what's best for her and don't want her overfed?

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Jodi - posted on 11/14/2013

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You're right, if she is turning away from it when offered, she isn't hungry. It doesn't hurt to offer it though. Definitely don't force her, but if you offer and she doesn't want it, then just comfort her.

Christina - posted on 11/14/2013

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It's very rare that she is actually hungry when she is crying. I will try to give her a bottle when she is inconsolable- she either completely stops drinking or turns her head away from the bottle. So, I really don't think that hunger is the problem. I really don't want to be giving her food on top of an already upset stomach with her having such bad gas and indigestion in the evenings. She has been having some serious problems with separation anxiety (refusing to be put down regardless of how exhausted she might be). Generally the only time she will sleep soundly or is soothed out of her crying fits is when I put her on my chest so she can hear my heart beating, and it's ONLY me that this works with. If someone else is holding her- even daddy- she continues to scream. So, again, I don't think hunger is the actual problem if she's turning away from the bottle or refusing to eat. She ONLY does this between the three hour marks. When it's time for her bottle, she's ready for it. Should I maybe try giving her an ounce or so as a snack halfway between mealtimes? Would that help? Again, don't want to overfeed, but if she doesn't want it... I'm not going to force her to eat.

Jodi - posted on 11/13/2013

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If she wasn't hungry she wouldn't settle with a bottle. Babies don't generally cry for no reason. If a bottle means she settles again, then maybe she was hungry! If she was still not settling and was upset, I would say it is something else. Babies also tend to eat more frequently when they are going through their natural growth spurts.

With regard to her thinking that she gets food each time she cries, sorry, she is not yet old enough to manipulate like that.

Eva - posted on 11/13/2013

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The pediatrician has a little chart for weight and height norms.
Re: Mother-in-law... No doc can help there. I had family telling me to put socks on my son at a sweaty-hot summer BBQ.
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