Feel like room mates married with 2 children why?

Cecilia - posted on 12/13/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I gave birth to our second child Nov 5 2012 we have a 4 year old son as well.



Since being home and off of work I have hardly spent any time with my hubby he works nights so when he comes home he goes straight to sleep most times, then he sleeps til the afternoon by then I'm already up with the kids but its like he's not really here not connecting with me

I get upset that he's on his phone all the time and he knows it but I don't wanna tell him what to do with his life.



I feel like I'm just a wife and mother of his kids and that he may take me for granted wanting the house to be clean and food to be made every day for work I just can't do it all and he thinks I can, mind you I'm pumping my milk every few hours for our daughter.



We haven't had sex for at least 2 months but have done other things but after my 6 week check and I get the ok for it I think he won't want to he's scared I may get pregnant again and we don't use condoms and I am breastfeeding and not on birth control. I miss my hubby we never just talk about things that aren't related to kids or money or the typical stuff how can we make this better??????

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Michelle - posted on 12/13/2012

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Having children puts extra strain on a relationship so you need to work at it.



Your jealousy is something you need to work on and not blame him for it. Unless you have a reason to not trust him then you have to. If you keep up with the jealousy then you could push him away.

Michelle - posted on 12/13/2012

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You need to make time to communicate properly. Get someone to watch the kids for an hour or so and the 2 of you get out and talk. DON'T talk about the kids or the house etc, talk about what you would like from your marriage.



Make sure you plan it and both of you go along with a list. Be honest with each other or it will be pointless.



You need to open up the lines of communication again.

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Cecilia - posted on 12/13/2012

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Thank you for your responses I know our marriage needs work we just need to do something about it I will make my list tonight the jealousy thing has intensified from my post partum hormones I find myself crying and getting mad for no reason I will work on my own insecurities I don't have a reason to not trust him.

Cecilia - posted on 12/13/2012

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I will do that forgot to mention he was telling me he talks to the girls who work in the food court at the where he works and it hurt me cause we don't talk about anything really I have jealousy issues if he's putting his attention on anyone other than me I'm not happy I know he needs friends and all but I don't trust other girls especially if they think he's single

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