Feeling a little depressed

Sonia - posted on 09/13/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )




Hello, this is my first time ever writing on a website like this. I just feel like im getting depressed and I dont know who i can really talk to anymore. I am a single mom with a soon to be 3 year old. my life is basically a routine, monday thru friday work from 9 to 5 and then go home and be with my son. sat & sun at home with him or visiting my brothers. I used to think i had friends but once i got pregnant, its like everyone desappeared. plus i dont go out because first, my family is old school, no one will babysit for me to go out with friend or just to go shopping. i guess i understand them, idk i feel like the reason they wont watch my lo is because he is mine and that y i had him. right? he started preschool last week and he attends with his little cousin who is a month younger than him, and my sister has always made me feel like my son isn't smart like her daughter. i can see that her daughter likes to draw, color, books and all that stuff but my son just doesnt....i try to ignore when she tells me about how her daughter is doing and that she does this and that all on her own...but it makes me feel like idk.....i would like to go out and just relax take some fresh air,even if it is alone with no friends, since i dont have any anyway lol...i just feel alone sometimes and want to move far away but i know there is no away that i would be able to be good economically with my baby and us alone...


Sarah - posted on 09/13/2016




You do sound depressed. Can your not get your sister to watch your child for just a few hours so you can go out and do something? Have you tried to make new friends? Your best bet will be other young mothers of young kids. Even just meeting up for coffee can help you lift your mood and give you a chance to vent your feelings. Don't sweat your niece being "ahead" of your child. It means nothing at all. Just love him, read to him and take care of yourself.


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Marg - posted on 09/15/2016




Marg M 19/16/16
My heart aches for you, sounds like to made a wise decision on being a single mom however it can be lonely, and hard. You need one or two good friends, (possibly from a church singles group) who understands your situation. Sometimes little boys can be a little less active towards coloring, drawing, etc in educational aspect as they tend to want to play. I know once he is a bit older he will become more active into the school ways. Be sure to encourage him and compliment him, and show your love by being his mom. When you feel down and out, take a deep breath in and smile at your little man and thank God for blessing you with him.

Alyssa - posted on 09/15/2016




I think this is an understandable feeling for single moms, which doesn't make it any less of a challenge. But being around other women who understand your position would be helpful. What about trading off babysitting with your sister? That way it's not just someone doing you a favor but you are both benefiting. Are you connected to a church at all? I know many of groups for single parents and even special nights for single moms. Also, when you mentioned the part about your sister comparing your kids, I think the fact that they are different genders makes a difference. Girls usually have different interests and behaviors from boys so that is no reason to make you feel like your son is not on track. Prayers for you!

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