Feeling a wee bit sad....

Chelese - posted on 12/17/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I know that babies grow up and all of those wonderful milestones that are experienced are memories to cherish and I do. There is no way to stop certain things that must be. Even weaning. My LO is growing so fast and knowing that I can't let him nurse forever kinda makes me feel sad. Another nursing time is being cut with only the first morning and night times left. But I know it's all for the best even if I feel sad about it. I suppose it's hormones and I didn't expect to feel this way but now that it' has arrived I just wish I could turn back the hands of time. That's not possible though. Maybe in another life or time or maybe in my dreams. I just need to be happy because the here and now is what counts....

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Bonnie - posted on 12/18/2011

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Chelese, I have two boys and am pregnant with my third child right now. I don't know the gender yet, but I am trying for a little girl. My husband keeps joking around that we are only destined to have boys and that it will be another boy. Who knows, guess we'll find out soon:-)

Chelese - posted on 12/18/2011

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That is so true and i remind myself of the milestones all the time. Caleb is a little more cautious about getting there but at the same time much more aggressive than my first child who is now 8 years old. I'm still waiting on him to start walking BUT he has made soooo much progress. He can pull himself up and stand while holding on to something himself and I think about 2 weeks ago where he needed me to have my hands around his waist to help him. The sadness doesn't dominate my life and I know we will still have the bond. But godness why do they have to grow up so fast? Makes me want to try for just one more and pray for a little girl. Does anyone feel like some are just destined to have boys only? I know this is way off the topic but just curious. Oh and weaning his 5pm nursing worked out really good! Here I was thinking that my breasts were going to explode by 11 pm when it was time for him to nurse again and they didn't! :-)

Bonnie - posted on 12/18/2011

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I have done the same. It's tough because they grow so fast as it is. Like Johnny said, try to look at all the new wonderful things and milestones your child is reaching as well as the happy times you have together.

Johnny - posted on 12/17/2011

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I've felt this way many times as my daughter has grown. But each time, I find that I mourn the previous phase, the next step begins to take hold and it becomes easier to let go as I see the wonderful things that are to come. I was sad when I weaned my daughter, I felt like some of that bond would evaporate. I could not have been more wrong. Even though sometimes she's too cool to hold my hand now in public (she's only 3, I must be such a dork!) when we are at home she loves to snuggle and nuzzle. It's probably partly hormones and partly just grieving the baby growing into a toddler. Try to look for all the new wonderful things he is doing, and hopefully that will make it feel a bit better.

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You do know you don't HAVE to wean, right? Granted, you CAN, but there's no law that says you have to unless you are both ready.

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