feeling alone

Monica - posted on 08/07/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I have a 21 yr old daughter. is on her own since 19 and is very independent. has a full time job, pays her own bills and I m very proud of her. my problem is : she never has time for her parents, seems like excuses after excuses. When we do see her she acts distant. if I ask im annoying. im told by family members she being a 21 yr old and stop acting like a mom and let her live and learn on her own. I understand but I want to have my daughter in my life too. and my family has their kids in their lives. I feel that my child doesn't or does she?

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Michelle - posted on 08/08/2016

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I can go weeks without speaking to my Mum but that's normal for us. My life is busy and the weeks blur into one another so it's not intentional, it just happens.

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Monica - posted on 08/08/2016

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Thanks Michelle! It makes alot of sense. for along time I thought what did I do wrong. but I guess like we all, we can't wait to be that grown up and start living our lives. thanks for your input.

Michelle - posted on 08/08/2016

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You said it all in your first sentence. She is independent and has been for a few years. A lot of children will go through a time where their friends ARE more important than family and it's okay. She will come around but the more you push the issue the longer it will take.
I suggest you give her the space she wants and she will contact you when she's ready.

Sally - posted on 08/08/2016

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I have almost the same isue but my son 21 cant keep a job NOT sure if he wants to go back to school!! Stay out late dont listen if i aske am annoying and trying to control his life.he lives with me and his 9 years old brother always in his room am bigging him go out or just eat with us atvthe dinner table maybe take his brother sonewhere!!
I want my son in my life, i want laftet joy and smiles, but how??

Monica - posted on 08/08/2016

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We have gone to her work and ate with her to get some time in with her we have suggested some nights to come over for dinner. She always says she tired or busy. Im on vacation right now and has asked to do or go somewhere together as a family, but her answer is I don't know my schedule yet. But she always has time for her friends.

Jodi - posted on 08/07/2016

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Have you tried a particular day of week where she is invited to a family dinner with you? Or set up a regular set time for a coffee or lunch?

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