Julia - posted on 03/17/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
I am a first time mother and almost 6 months pregnant. I am excited about the baby but I also feel alone during this pregnancy. I love my child's father but he hasn't really been there for me. I had recently went to visit him and I thought that would give us more time to bond. He spent time with me but he mostly was into his Xbox and Facebook. And when I tried to talk to him about things, he never really wanted to talk because he felt I was arguing about the same things. And the other day, he really hurt my feelings. He came out of nowhere and told me he was still in love with one of his exes, but he can't be with her. He said he realized that after all of the arguing between us. That just doesn't make sense. Why would anyone realize they are still in love with someone after arguing? It's more like he is using her as his safety net and not trying to do what he needs to. He also said he felt as if we were incompatible and we argued a lot and felt like things wouldn't work out. I was trying to get him to understand I was trying to get to know him more and that my hormones have been controlling me. But he really haven't put any time towards us bonding and fixing whatever issues we're dealing with. He then said for us to work on our friendship, then down the line we could be in a relationship. All of that led me to come back home. He has made feel so alone that I don't even know if I would want to be with him at all. I'm at the point of not contacting him anymore until he can start being the person he needs to be. And what kills me is that he's already dealing with issues with his other children's mothers. You would have thought that would open his eyes. Has anyone ever dealt with this situation or currently dealing with this? What is usually the end result?