Feeling like we dont belong even though it is family

Sarah - posted on 12/22/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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my fiance and i are never included in any family get together but for xmas ...Last yr the host (his sister) barely spoke two words to us. we both sat on the couch looking at the tv I was very hurt wanted to leave but my daughter loves to play with her niece when we got home I took all my anger out on fiance later that night to be honest i dnt knw why. I just had a really bad xmas last yr at his family gathering and he feels the same way. Would it be wrong if i didnt accept the invitation because it feels like we are not welcome but because were family that is the only reason why we do get an invitation.

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Sarah - posted on 12/22/2012

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i always make an effort to help clean up or if she needs help etc. but its a No win situaton my fiance is the black sheep of the family if that helps at all.no matter what ...its never gd enuff for his family

Jodi - posted on 12/22/2012

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Sometimes, we have to make the effort too, so instead of sitting on the couch looking at the TV, you could have offered to help in the kitchen. Another way to feel more included with his family might be to BE the host of a family get together occasionally. Sometimes, if we aren't feeling included, it is because we are not making enough effort to include ourselves.

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