Feeling so lost

Justine - posted on 11/24/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My son was just taken to jail last Wednesday, I can't afford to bail him out and I feel so lost. I can't eat, sleep, I can't even concentrate on anything but him sitting there! I have no clue what jail is like, I feel for his health. A month ago he was in an accident he broke his hip, knee, ankle on his left side and still can not walk on it per doctor but now he is in there with no doctor or PT.

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Lisa - posted on 11/25/2015

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I have a 26 and a 25 year old boys. The 25 year old is my step son. I told them both growing up that if they get thrown in jail for drunk driving or drugs. Anything bad like that, that I will not bail them out. When my step son was 18, he was thrown in jail for drugs (weed). He called and we said,"No!" It was hard thing to do but they have to learn. He later got messed up in harder dangerous drugs. He would go to rehab and get kicked out. We moved states. He had no where to go and he had people trying to find him for owing money. We told him he can come down here and we will help him under certain rules. If he breaks the rules, he is out. Less than 2 weeks is all it took. We went to the shelter and signed him up. Went back and had him get into the car. While driving there, we told him what is happening. He wasn't happy but we had to let him get to his bottom. He needed to know we went going to enable his choices and we met what we said. He is a hard worker now. He has a house, girlfriend and her child he takes care of. He is very thankful to us. He doesn't do drugs anymore. He is healthy.
My son the 26 year has always been against drugs. My two boys were always close until my stepson started doing drugs so my son cut him out of his life. Now they are brothers again. We are blessed! I hope your son will learn for this. I know it hurts you but I can say, it hurts you more than them. I have never been in jail as well but they need to be held responsible for their choices. If he doesn't learn and you don't let him, it can be worse later. Over dose, kills himself or someone else, gets a really long prison term , or caughts hep C or hiv that is life threatening. Your in my thoughts and so is your son! I know your heart is so hurt! You have to really try to stay strong for him and for the rest of your family. It doesn't seem right not rescuing your child but it is the best thing you can do!

Dove - posted on 11/24/2015

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Maybe he'll learn to make better choices in his life if he doesn't like jail. I can't yet imagine how hard it is as a mother to watch your child make bad decisions on this level, but you can't bail them out of everything.

Jodi - posted on 11/24/2015

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Maybe it is time for him to realise that mum can't always bail him out of trouble.....and that there are consequences to actions. I get that it is hard, but he is an adult and needs to be accountable.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/24/2015

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Guess he should have made better choices, then, eh?

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Justine - posted on 11/24/2015

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He just turned 24, he was in a head on car accident however that is not why he is in jail. His arrest was from drugs. I have talked to their medical facility for help for him and that's a joke

Raye - posted on 11/24/2015

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How old is your son? Was the accident his fault? What led to his arrest?

The jail should have a physician to look in on your son. He might not get the best care, but they shouldn't ignore his injuries. If you can't afford to bail him out, then he will have to await the judge. He obviously did something to get in there, so he has to cope with the consequences of his actions.

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