Feeling the pressure any suggestions?

Michelle - posted on 02/10/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )

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My daughter is 21months old, she goes to daycare 3 days a week and i work 2-3days a week (the same days she goes to daycare) I use the other 2 work days to clean the house and do weeding outside plus tidy the house and do washing both days (my partner is studying 5 days a week). she goes to bed 7:30-8pm and at around 10:30-11 she wakes up and im usually heading to bed so she comes to bed with me (some nights I put her back in her room). All this my partner seems to be fine with. But she is still breastfed at night and he keeps hassling me to stop it. Im quiet happy with it (until she comes to our bed some nights because then its difficult to get comfy and get her to stop using it as a dumby/pacifier) but everytime i do it he turns around and says something about how im meant to be stopping. Hes excellent with playing with her and they have a special bond in other ways but my daughter and i are constantly at each other it seems even though she is so young and I feel that this helps us but he just pressures me for it to stop (along with everyone else who says she needs to stop sleeping in our bed even though there are nights where I put her in her own bed and he brings her in to ours yet Im the one getting all the blame for it) I feel pressured and am sick of this feeling. Suggestions? (I do have to be careful how I do things as he does have anger issues although they are ALOT better these days I still have to be careful incase hes stressed or whatnot)

He used to get aggressive and call names that sort of thing but i gave him an ultimatum and he doesnt do it anymore he has done a complete 360 i just dont want to trigger it but things are like I said ALOT better now (it has been MONTHS since our arguements have gotten that bad)

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"I do have to be careful how I do things as he does have anger issues although they are ALOT better these days I still have to be careful incase hes stressed or whatnot) "



Whoa, whoa, whoa. I think we need to take a moment to focus on what I think is the real important issue here. What kind of anger issues are we talking about?

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