Sara - posted on 02/25/2009 ( 255 moms have responded )
I have to say that I'm feeling pretty angry right now about how mom's that chose to do Cry It Out sleep methods, or suggest it to other mom's on this site, get chastised by others. I have had people say that I am harming my child physically as well as psychologically (they will feel abandoned, etc) by practicing Ferber or similar methods with my child and I am really offended by that! I mean, people are going to have a difference of opinion on how to raise children, this isn't new. But, I think that telling someone they are harming their children by using this method is ignorant and mean! Cry it out does not just mean that you put your kid to bed and ignore them! You reassure them that you are there, but you don't pick them up, you don't feed them to get them to fall asleep, you teach them to soothe themselves! I just don't appreciate that most people equate Cry It out methods with poor parenting! We are here to be supportive of one another. I don't knock moms that want to cosleep or use other no cry methods. You do what works and what is best for you and your children! I just wanted to put it out there that the Ferber method is not cruel, it is not child abuse, it is one of many options for helping your child learn to sleep on their own! Thanks.