Fetus is not growing as it should

Mittal - posted on 07/29/2012 ( 21 moms have responded )

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I had conception with no problem, but when I went for my 7 week's scan, the doctor tole me that fetus hasn't grown as it should at 7 weeks. It still looks like it's just 4 weeks. He suggested me to abort? Has any one seen this situation?

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Katrina - posted on 11/16/2012

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Hi

This is my first pregnancy, I mn in 10 weeks but from 7th weeks till now my fetus had no grow no heart bit I can believe that I cannot save that. I have all symptoms of pregnancy. I am so sad. But still I want to have hope. From 17 days ago till now my fetus has no growing but i have no any symtoms of miscarriage. Is there any hope?

Katherine - posted on 07/30/2012

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Early fetal development follows a pretty strict growth rate. Your best hope is that your dates are off. This is not all too difficult to accept, as unless you were charting, it is entirely possible to have ovulation bleeding or a missed period confuse the date issue. Has the doc ordered a series of quantitative HCG tests? That would offer more information to see what really is happening. I am so very sorry for the stress you are going through. The conflicting emotions of hope and despair are so incredibly difficult. I have suffered two losses. Although my stories are slightly different from yours, and hopefully yours does not end the way mine did, I do know all about the waiting game, and my heart goes out to you. If it is a loss, often docs will use the term "missed abortion" if the body has not reacted to the loss, or "spontaneous abortion" if the body miscarries completely. The terms are medically correct, but carry with them the potential for even more misguided self-blame by the mother. How cruel language can be. If the baby has, indeed, died, then you are faced with the decision to naturally abort (you body will remove the embryo. At this stage, it would be similar to a heavy, uncomfortable period), or to undergo a D&C, a medical procedure that dilates the cervix and scrapes off the uterine walls. I am sorry to be so blunt, but I remember how much I desperately needed answers. In no way, whatsoever, does either choice mean you are to blame for the loss, or have become a poor mother by giving up on your baby. Missed miscarriages (where the baby is still carried by the mother, even though it has died some time before.... the fate of my first loss) are sadly very common, very emotionally painful, and rife with confusion, despair, and utter misery. It is so easy to second-guess ourselves as mothers, even as humans. Please, while you find your answers, be kind to yourself. Allow yourself to feel love and hate, hope and despair, envy and graciousness. You will find support in the most unlooked-for places, and sometimes not where you most need it. Many don't know how to react, and say things that they think will help, but in reality only make themselves feel better. Eventually you will forgive them, but it's ok to be angry as well. I will keep you in my thoughts.

Jane - posted on 01/28/2013

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Mittal I have the same exact situation and I am so confused.because I have never heard of such a situation as fetus hasn't grown and it still looks like a 4 weeks scan would show.my doc is giving me another 2weeks if it hasn't improved he plans on cleaning my womb. Pls let me know how yours turned out.am scared now

Maricles - posted on 09/13/2012

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Don't stress out too much. I'm in the same situation as you right now. I'm supposed to be 10 weeks but my last ultrasound shows a 5 week only. My periods are very irregular. I can skip up to 4-5 months. I have three very healthy births already and this is going to be #4. Something like this would have never cross my mind if i hadn't had that ultrasound. With my 3 previous biths, i never did a first trismaster ultrasound. Everything was so normal. With this one, i decided to do one at 10 weeks and instead of enjoying my pregnancy, i am so worried. It seems so normal, but when the doctor said that my embryo is not there and only measure up to a 5 week pregnancy, everything just changed.



Anyways, i got tired of worrying and just going to let it be. If it's meant to be, then it will be. If i hadn't gone to the ultrasound, maybe i would have been happier and healthier. I am thinking it's only because of my irregular periods and i'm probably off date.



Abortion is not in my dictionary, especially when you really want the baby. It didn't happen on accident, it was meant to happen. I say wait it out and see what happens in a few more weeks. Doctors are doctors, but god is also god.

Katherine - posted on 07/30/2012

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Hopefully, this entire discussion is moot, and in about 8 months you will be mom to a healthy, happy baby. However, should this not be the case, I feel I must dissent to some of the posts here so the original poster is not put in a place of extreme, unfounded guilt and self-blame. Please realize that I am sure that the latest posters had no intention of doing this, but having lived this hell, I know that such comments can place an unfair burden on the mom. The body does not always take care of it on its own, or, at least, it could take an agonizingly long time to take care of it, like, well over a month. I am living proof of that awful fact. A four-week old embryo would not have a heartbeat to begin with, so I assume there was not a heartbeat on the scan. If indeed the dates are off, that means that you could see a heartbeat at about 5 or six weeks at the latest, and I hope so much that that is the case. The best thing, in my non-medically-trained opinion, is to get a series of quantitative HCG tests (it's a blood test) to see if the HCG levels are rising at an appropriate level. Even if they are rising, they have to rise (at this early level of fetal development) at least close to double in two-days time. Mine rose, but at dismal rates. Still, since they rose, my doctor advised against a D&C until the tests did show a decline. If your HCG results show less-than promising results, then you have your terrible answer. Above all else, you must remember that this is NOT YOUR FAULT. You did not fail in any way, you did not do something to endanger your child, you did not anger any gods nor are you having some kind of karma payback. These things happen, it's terrible, it's unfair, but they do. If this pregnancy has indeed ended, it is not any moral failing of yours if you accept that, and accept your doctor's advice. For me, I chose to carry my dead child for many weeks. In large part, I did this because I did blame myself. I knew I shouldn't, but my heart and my mind refused to talk and reason with each other. The turmoil I felt nearly destroyed me. I knew she died, but I also knew I was her mother, and good mothers do not give up on their children. But, my child was gone, and in all reality I was not giving up on her. She was gone. There was nothing left to cling to other than false hope and misplaced guilt. This is not a part of life that can be reasoned, it can not be explained, it can not be made "all better." I am sorry. I am so, so, very sorry.

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Elle - posted on 12/10/2014

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I just had this exact same result today. This is my first baby and I am so scared. Will have blood test results in a couple of days, so fingers crossed until then, but in the meantime it is a lot of anxious waiting and hoping. we haven't even told our family yet - my husband and I live overseas and were waiting to get home for the Christmas holidays to break the news. Could really use my mom's support. Feeling totally helpless. But putting positive vibes out into the world!

Katrina - posted on 01/29/2013

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My doc said to me that we have to clean your womb because medicine is not useful for you because if you use medicine, more than 50 percent, it may have a possibility to do operation. I decided to do my operation and now I am ok. During cleaning the womb no one feel anything but generally operation is not good except in some especial cases.

Melissa - posted on 08/03/2012

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That happened to me I was suppose to be 8 weeks but the ultrasound showed the fetus stopped growing at 5 weeks the doctor said he wanted to wait and so did i, i refused to abort it and 3 days later i miscarried but it was on by bodys terms not the doctors.

Pamela - posted on 08/02/2012

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Get a second opinion! PLEASE!!! Do not accept the opinion of just one doctor in this case.
You may want to even get 3 opinions. If you can visit more than one facility....i.e. If you have insurance that allows go to a different hospital/medical group to get another opinion. If your health plan won't allow a different group...just get a second opinion from another OB-GYN doctor.

I would be VERY SUSPICIOUS of a doctor that is encouraging you to abort a baby! That choice should yours and yours alone...or if you are married...yours and your husband's decision together!

Alexandra - posted on 08/01/2012

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I would wait and see what happens. The ultrasounds are so often wrong. But always keep in mind that it can be right and then you must decide.

Kate - posted on 08/01/2012

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When I had my first child 14 yrs ago now I had a possitive test result some weeks later by the time they should of heard a heart beat they didn't we went for a scan and their he was happy as can be (looking back now probably not as developed as a 13 week baby should be but there). We had another scan at 20 weeks where they moved my dates by 5 weeks. It didn't add up as I wouldn't of been pregnant when I had the possitive test result and he "13 week" he would of been 8 weeks gestation and even to my eye he was more developed than that. Anyhow my point being at some point he didn't develope on rate but I have him now..
My next pregnancy didn't end in the same way that baby didn't develope stopped growing at 10 weeks and I misscarried.
My advise would be to have the HCG blood test and another scan. Make sure you are certain before you commit to any decisions. Hoping all works out for you x

Brandie - posted on 07/31/2012

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i had that with my3rd and today shes a happy growing 4 1/2 yr.old.wait it out , i did. even though shes had her health ups and down,shes fabulous

Coleen - posted on 07/31/2012

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My son who was conceived via IVF did not grow at the appropriate rate either. He was always 10 days behind his conception date (which we knew). He would grow week to week the appropriate amount, but always 10 days behind. Doctor was doom and gloom and thought for sure he would miscarry. He is now a 6-year-old about to start first grade. I would wait and see what happens and I would suggest seeking a second opinion. Good luck to you.

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If you think you can handle the risks of carrying on I would try to carry on.

Your Dr knows the situation, but only you can decide.

I would carry on if it were me.

Talk to your Dr get all the facts, make an informed choice one way or the other.

Cyndi - posted on 07/30/2012

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I hope for best for you. I agree that your doctor should order the 3 day HCG blood draws before you would do anything. When I had my first pregnancy it did result in miscarriage. I was having light brown spotting and a little bit of stinging feeling. I knew I was at 7-8 weeks and the ultrasound showed much younger and no betting heart yet. The doctor said my dates could be off and fine or could be miscarriage. So, we drew blood that day and next two and from only small rise each day, he could say it was miscarriage. I waited a week to see if my body would "deliver" the fetus (it would only be grape or smaller). But it didn't and after a week I agreed to a D and C because I wasn't having any symptoms or period like it was going to come out. And to be honest, I was exhausted from worrying I was going to have the "delivery" in a public restroom at work or every time I had to go. Physically the d and c was not bad for me, I was gently sedated and don't remember it. Mentally it sucked for a while. I hope you have good news. Oh, I have two beautiful children now.

Karla - posted on 07/30/2012

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I would wait it out. The same thing happened to my aunt with all three of her kids. She always measured smaller with her ultrasounds . Her doctor thought something was wrong with her babies. My aunt didn't get an abortion and all three of get kids are healthy. Good luck to you

Gina - posted on 07/30/2012

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Yes... It can go either way and you should pray and wait and see. If you abort, It could be a healthy fetus and just have wrong dates. Anything is possible. If something is wrong, your body will take care of that in the form of a miscarriage.

Kelli - posted on 07/30/2012

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If there is still a beating heart then you should wait it out! I'm amazed that your doctor would even suggest an abortion! I lost 2 at an early stage and it is very difficult, but we are not in control here. There is always a reason for these things and we may never understand them.

Jodie - posted on 07/30/2012

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7 weeks is very early. Wait it out. As Vanessa said, let nature take it's course.

Vanessa - posted on 07/30/2012

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Just wait it out, if it's meant to be it will happen if not let nature take its course. Your dates. Plus be off and the drs are not always right! Praying for a good outcome!

MeMe - posted on 07/29/2012

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Happened to me during my 2nd pregnancy. My baby stopped growing at 8 weeks and by 10 weeks I miscarried.

Hope everything goes alright for you and the baby but it doesn't sound too good. :(

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