Sarah - posted on 12/29/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )
My partner and I have a 3 year old daughter. When we first told my partners family they were very angry and upset as we were not married. At the time I was upset because we had been together for 5 years, we were st the time both 28, I have got a good job, we had a nice home together and more than anything we are 100 per cent committed to each other. Anyway, after my daughter was born they came around and positively sore on her as she is the only grandchild.
A few days ago my partner proposed to me which came as a complete surprise although we had discussed him proposing within 6 months. My family are not very close and my mum has a lot of issues so didn't expect much excitement from them which I didn't get. We told my partners parents yesterday and I haven't been able to stop crying due to their reaction. His mum and dad proceeded to lecture us on the fact that we should have gotten married before having our daughter and that we have to marry soon and we shouldn't have any more children before the marriage which lasted 20 mins. No-one asked to see the ring and my partner had to practically force a congratulation out of them. Not even his brothers and sisters showed any happiness - they practically left the room as soon as we told them.
My fiance and I feel completely deflated. What was meant to be a joyous occasion has left us both in tears. I don't know how to act and I have had a few friends call me to talk about the engagement but the occasion has been so dreadful that I have been ignoring their call because I am longer happy. I'm now 32 but I felt they treated us like children. I also don't want to get married in the next 2 years and I do want to extend our family in the next 6 months so God knows how they are going to react to that.
Anyone got any advice or in similar situation?