Barb - posted on 04/25/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )
We have some very close friends. Our 14 year old sons are best friends. Mine is trained in martial arts and has mild high fuctioning autism. The other child is very bright, funny, and very much a home body. About 6 months ago the other child complained that my son was hitting him. we sat down together and told the boys their would be no hit not ever joking punch in the arm.
About 2 weeks ago I picked my son up at their house and he was sullen. After about 3 hours he blew up and yell that he was not mad at us but that "Johnny had been hitting him and it had really hurt." When we asked him why he did not say something at our friends home he responded he did not want to get his friend in trouble. He had hit him the the head and then had puched his already injured leg 6 or 7 time. When my child had asked him to stop and reminded him the leg was sore after the 1st blow he hit 2 more time immediately and laugh. Johnny's 11 year old sister told him to stop after the 3 blow and he turned and raised a fist at her. She went and locked herself in her room. When I discussed all this with the parents they said. Well lets tell them no hitting. We did that 6 months ago and that is why my son did not hit him back. He hit him again in their car on the way to a sporting event last week. Johnny's Mom was driving and she told him to stop. When she told me the dtory she said the boys were hit each other again today in the back of my van. When I asked my son he said Johnny hit me and I told his Mom. As soon as she looked away he hit me again. I'm ready to tell my kid to hit him back froreal one time. But he really is afraid that he would hurt him.. Any advise?