Denise - posted on 05/04/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )
I'm wondering if i should file child support alone by itself or should I go ahead and beat him to the punch and file for custody at the same time. My sister told me that I should file child support and custody at the same time to get it out the way being that we all know my kids dad is going to file custody as retaliation anyway.
but a friend of mine who has went through this suggests just filing child support only and let him go ahead and do his custody retaliation. I want to do the smart thing just not sure what.
Right now we don't have legal custody but "joint custody" but I have her 1 day more which makes me primary custodial parent and an attorney affirmed that to me. So I looked it up and their is shared custody and joint custody and I am not sure which one I should file for. I believe shared would work better for me. I do know that even if the father has joint custody he may still be ordered to pay child support. I looked online and one article said that a parent shouldn't go in asking for joint because it may look like they dont think they can be primary parent?? i was like what the heck?
So my questions are:
1. Have any of you ladies ever filed for child support and custody at the same time? Was it a good thing to do-did it benefit you? How to know if you should just file child support and deal with custody later? Do the courts automatically make you file (I was told they do later that's why I should just file child support and I know child support case and custody are two separate entities)-Should i just go in and file for support only or do both at the same time.
2. I can't file for sole custody because my dd has been with him almost equally for 7 years and I know she doesnt want that to change and I know that it would be best for her. So I'm thinking joint or shared. In my situation is it better to file for Joint or shared?
I know its lengthy my bad I just want to do what would benefit me and dd. Thanks ladies and Happy Saturday!