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Tammy - posted on 04/12/2015 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I just get upset because when I look at my other kids and see the things they can do.but when I looked at Aaliyah i thank of all things she can't do.like having friends and. Hanging out with them or fall in love and having kids .this year she is her prom she can't go get to pick out her dress

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/15/2015

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Ms. Rutherford, if you come onto a PUBLIC INTERNATIONAL FORUM, you have to expect answers from all over the world.

As far as feeling sorry for yourself because you have a special needs child, get over it. There are literally THOUSANDS of special needs children and adults in existence, and they all manage to have a great quality of life. Its all about how YOU as the caregiver approach the situation. You can either be positive, or you can be negative.

You've been negative, from the sounds of it, which isn't helping your child any. Special needs children DO have friends, DO participate in activities with their peers, and DO advance in certain areas. ADVOCATE FOR YOUR CHILD instead of assuming that she's a nobody because she has special needs. Why can't she pick out a prom dress? There's absolutely no reason that she cannot do so, with help. Does she have a date? If not, THAT'S OK. Plenty of what you would term 'normal' kids don't have dates either. Who says that she cannot fall in love? Don't condemn her to a lifetime of nothing because you feel that she doesn't have a chance.

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Raye - posted on 04/15/2015

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If you don't want to receive notices of responses to your post, you should change your account settings or lock the thread so no one else will respond.

Jodi - posted on 04/14/2015

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This is a website not a text message. Noone is saying you are stupid, just that your posts are a bit hard to read. If you stopped thinking it was a text message, it may be a bit easier. One of the reasons I didn't respond to this post in the first place was that I was a little confused by what you were talking about. However, telling people to go to hell and calling them names is not going to help with that.

Jodi - posted on 04/14/2015

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Tammy, I'm going to agree with Raye (who is not a man) here. Your posts are very hard to read and understand. That last post you just posted I can't decipher much of it. Noone is making fun of the way you talk - we can't hear how you talk. But posting legible posts is pretty important to getting responses.

Raye - posted on 04/14/2015

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I said in my original post that I'm sorry you're having a hard time. And I genuinely am sorry for your situation. It is just very hard to read some of these posts that have run-on sentences and bad grammar. It is confusing for us to try to figure out what you're saying before we can think about responding. Also, you did post the same thing 5 times which was unnecessary. I was trying to be helpful by explaining how the forum worked so you wouldn't be upset that no one responded right away.

As for your daughter, you have to be strong for her. There will be a lot of crying. There will be sadness of her life not being able to be lived up to the potential she would have had otherwise. You just have to help make is as good a life as you can. And cut yourself some slack. I'm sure you're doing your best for her. Loosen up a little and try to enjoy some of the time you spend with her instead of getting all caught up in what could have been.

And don't let people like me get under your skin. I am a nobody here in the internet, and nobody here is worth getting your panties all in a bunch about. Laugh a little. Think about the comments you get and how (even the ones you don't agree with) are actually trying to be helpful in their way. And if you really don't agree, that's okay too. You're not going to hurt my feelings.

Raye - posted on 04/14/2015

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Yes, I know that "ur" means. It means bad grammar.

To "fine" a woman is to make her pay money.
To "find" a woman is hooking up.

Is English not your first language?

I am a mom and my children will learn how to speak and write intelligibly.

Raye - posted on 04/13/2015

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Tammy, I assume by your posts that your daughter is pretty far up on the spectrum? I'm sorry you're having a hard time. Don't feel like you're alone. You're not. There are many parents with kids who struggle with Autism, Downs, or other disorders. It's hard work to raise a special needs child, but you can do it.

What you can also do is become more educated yourself on proper spelling and grammar. It's FEEL not FILL. Sentences begin with capitol letters and end with periods. When you have a prepositional phrase, or are making a list, commas are appropriate. Don't blame your phone or e-device. You can proofread and edit before you hit send.

You also don't need to post 5 times about the same thing. Responses on this forum are not immediate. It's up to whomever chooses to respond, at whatever time of day they happen to be looking at the site, to answer questions. And sometimes you get assholes like me. Sorry.

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