Syretha - posted on 04/19/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )
Ok , my husband and I have been married for 8 years. We seem to be having the same problem every year which is money. He prefer for me to not know what's in our account. For at least 4 of those years he has lied about how much money is coming into the house. I found out that he was making at least 500-600 or more than what he was telling me to budget from. With the income I had to budget it was still not enough to keep things paid. Not knowing that he had this other money. I have to beg for money just to get our 3 kids clothes and shoes. I have to ask him for money to get household items like soap or detergent to wash clothes and when I do he huffs and puffs about it. I feel like a person with bad credit going to a bank trying to get a loan hoping and praying he gives it to me.He expects for me to feed a family of 5 with 400 a month. Note that our children are 17, 9, 8 years old. The 8 year old is the only one we have together. I'm not getting child support from other two because he said to leave well enough alone and that he got us. I can't spend a dime without him calling me or texting me asking what I'm doing and why I'm spending money. He has also threaten to cancel my debit card. I don't spend money on myself at all unless I'm buying a pack of cigarettes which I need to keep myself together. I would ask for online account information so I can see what's coming and going so I can manage bills he tells me I don't need to know what's going and coming and that he will handle the bills. But if that's so then why are we 3 months behind on house, getting cut off notice on other bills if you are handling things. I don't trust him financially. What should I do because I'm to the point that I want to be done.