finding a balance

Jennifer - posted on 02/24/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




I have a two year old and a do you find time for anything else? My kids are so important to me and I feel guilty any time I do anything other than take care of them and play with them. It's really hard to find any sort of balance in my life right now. Suggestions?


Connie - posted on 02/24/2012




it is hard to find balance sometimes. I feel much the same about my girls but over the years I have found that it is important to take the time to remain me. find a couple of things that you like...then find someone who is willing and able to give you a little time out every once in awhile you need to take time or you forget who you are and you become just a mother....please dont misunderstand, being a mother is one of the most important jobs there is but being apart from them a little gives you time to unwind and to miss them and then you actually enjoy them more. it also allows you to keep hold of you because before you know it they will be grown. it will be easier when they start school. When my girls were little I used to take them with me on a walk or a hike or to the park that way i was doing something i enjoyed. you are their first teacher and they learn best by example. good luck and God bless!

Kate CP - posted on 02/24/2012




Well, if you don't take care of yourself you CAN'T take care of them. I pawn my kids off on my husband every other weekend and get a manicure with a girl friend of mine. For 2-3 hours I am just another woman at the salon being pampered and it's great. :)

On the flip side, I *do* let my husband have his time away as well. He usually goes to lunch with the guys every Saturday.


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Chrystal - posted on 02/24/2012




I can relate I'm a stay at home mom of a 19 month old and 8 month old. I love my kids and enjoy being with them but it's a lot of work and doesn't leave much time for anything else. But if I'm not taken care of than I can't take care of them so I made the time to take care of me. I admit when I first asked for that personal time from my husband it was me that had trouble following through I felt bad that I wasn't with my kids but it's gotten easier the more I come home and see how happy my kids are to have a few hours alone with daddy and how much more energized I am after that time away. You find balance by really believing that you are a priority; because if you are than you can find the time you need for yourself and you know that doing so makes your kids lives better. My suggestion is get a babysitter be it your spouse, your sister, your mom, or someone you pay but get one and go out for a few hours if you can only afford once a month well that's a start to finding balance. Another thing I suggest is find some small quick thing that refreshes you for those nights when all you have is 20 minutes before bed I like to paint my nails, burn a scented candle during an evening shower, read a magazine for a few minutes, etc. I figure no matter how busy I am with the kids they sleep at least 20 minutes at some point and the picking up can wait 20 minutes. Good luck

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