Bobbie - posted on 08/28/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )
Rather than make myself sick with grief, which I knew she would hate, I invited a couple of her friends and some of my friends and we gave a party in her honor. It was a good thing to do. My beautiful, talented 32 year old daughter passed last year from depression and alcohol. I had to take six months off from work to get myself together. I want the newly grieving mothers to know they are not alone in wondering how they are going to live with this. For the first few months I sometimes hid in the garage or took the car way out in the country so that I could scream until I tired myself out. I had a wonderful support group, but they, of course, could not really know how it feels. I also have a husband who suffers from dementia, so he is little support for me and my son. I turned very quickly to a friend who lost her daughter five years ago. We meet every month, and she recommended a parent support group which has been a lifeline to me. I also got grief counseling for myself and my son who was very close to his younger sister. Dear, Dear Mothers this is nothing you can handle alone. Get ALL the help you can and if you are spiritual, turn to whatever you call God. As for the children seeing the departed loved ones, that is the greatest comfort and confirmation that they do not really leave us... they only go to prepare a place for us. My daughter sends me butterflies and feathers almost every day. Even in the midst of your grief, you must be open to the signs. My heart goes out to each and every one of you.