first grader failing so who is to blame here

Ann - posted on 06/11/2011 ( 30 moms have responded )

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Here is the problem my son haves only missed 5 days of school all year ,and they can not say that is why. He haves had problems with handing in home work but not because it was not done but because he missed placed it. I had a parent teacher con. in the beginning of the year. The teacher said then she thinks he haves adhd no way he dose. She was not informed about his hearing problem till then. The teachers form the year before didn't tell her or if it was not put in to he's records but we got that out of the way. She had my email and phone number and she never called or email me to let me know any thing till this last marking period. He got a award for student of the month for improvement. Then this week on Monday i get a request for a parent teacher thing and it was for Wednesday so i couldn't go because it was not enough time to get off work. I was able to go to his his class thing on Friday and that is when i found out he was going to fail she said he was not ready to be in second grade but is going to be a good first grader next year. Here is the kicker in the beginning of the year she told me his speech is having a big in-packed on in his class work because she could not under stand his questions and she have told me that a couple of other times he haves been in speech for 2 years and other then the stuff we are all ready doing like blowing a cotton ball around on the table and a couple of other thing the speech teacher haves set up i am doing all i can I even signed papers for other testing to be done,but that was at the request of his speech teacher. I think his teacher gave up on him and that is why he is failing. Why didn't she let me know sooner. I wish she would have given me her email because she was so-post to send it to me at the beginning of the year. I told her as long as she let me know he was having problems i would do any thing sign any thing to get to the problem. so we could fix it. She never let me know till now. Before you judge me let me just say this i have 5 kids the oldest gets all a's and b's the 2 haves a learning disability that we have been working hard on and haves never failed the 3 one haves all a's and scored top of his class then there is the one i am talking about here and the last one is in pre-k. I just need to know if i should fight this or should i let him go back to 1st grade next year. i just don't wont him to fall behind because some one let him down.

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Jodi - posted on 06/11/2011

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I have a daughter in First Grade (6 year old)



If your son is misplacing his homework, it is YOUR responsibility as a parent. Sorry, but it is. You need to sort this out and teach him responsibility, but also monitor the situation.



If your son has a hearing problem, it is YOUR responsibility to make an appointment at the start of the school year to discuss this with the teacher.



Can I ask when the last time was you made an appointment to discuss your son's issues with his teacher? It sounds to me like he has some obvious issues you are aware of, but that you have had little discussion with the teacher about. The thing is, education is not just the teacher's job. It is a combined effort, and parents need to be more involved.



If you TRULY believe your son is ready to move up to second grade, see if you can have a secon opinion and have him reassessed. But otherwise, it sounds like perhaps repeating could be a good idea.



I am not placing blame on anyone here, I just can see a total failure of communication between you and the teacher, and not ALL of the communication is her responsibility.

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Regardless of who's 'fault' it is that your son failed...if he's not ready to be in second grade it would be more harmful to fight to get him in second grade. If he doesn't have all the necessary skills to complete second grade work, he will fall behind and it will be that much harder for him to catch up. If you don't want him to 'fall behind' leave him in first grade. It's been shown that it is better for a child to be held back in early elementary. Those basic skills that are learned in the lower grades are the foundation for everything else.

Jennifer - posted on 06/11/2011

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As a first grade teacher, Communication is key. Someone had stated about speech, LD, etc. being in different files. This is the same for my district as well. Unless we have a reason to look at that file, it is rarely looked at by the classroom teacher. As for the homework being turned in, I put that responsibility on the student. My students learn my procedure within the first few weeks of school AND I always remind them as they come in the door. Now if they do not follow it and do not turn it in, that is their fault, not mine or Yours! I tell my kids that Mom and Dad are not in first grade and are not here to turn in your work, so they have to be responsible for it.
Retention: This is a difficult decision for teachers as well. We don't like having to retain any child, but if we feel like it is the best thing for them, then that is when it is suggested. But please know, there are many factors that go into deciding if a child should be retained. It is not always just academics. Are they academically ready, socially ready, maturity, self esteem/confidence, and most important....will this benefit this child?
I think that is great that he received an award for improvement, but it may not have been enough improvement to be ready for second grade. Of course, I don't know this teacher, but maybe she wanted to build a little confidence in your child by giving this award. I know that I do this with some of my struggling students from time to time so they know that I recognize that they are working hard and are trying their best.

Someone else had mentioned about the class sizes and money. She is right. Unfortunately class sizes are getting bigger which makes it really difficult to be able to have those small groups to work on specific skills that children may be behind in. My team has already been told that we will not be getting another teacher nor an aid next year and we are already at 23 kids in each class before any move-ins and private K that start 1st grade. I am cringing at the thought of how many will be on my roster when we return. Having this many bodies in one class is frustrating on the teachers as well, bc we know that some may fall through the cracks bc there just isn't enough of me. :-(

I hope you can figure out a plan than works for you, but please remember that if you are going to retain, it is MUCH better to do it now than later.

Becca - posted on 06/12/2011

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Many school districts frown upon holding back especially if it is only in certain subject areas. There are options like resource, small group instruction, visual prompting and frequent comprehension check. If u have access to apps, look for iAdvocate. It has lots of suggestions on how to respond to many school comments.

Jennifer - posted on 06/12/2011

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Just my opinion, but you said he has a hearing disability, correct? If this is the case, this can cause his reading aloud to be say, not up to par. Also with spelling. Can he spell a word out loud to you but has difficulty transferring it to paper, i.e, spelling tests? There was a first grader in a different class this year that had this problem and we found out that she has this learning disibility with I believe her eyes. So because of that the teacher chose NOT to retain her. She is getting therapy outside of school and for the rest of the school year her teacher gave her oral spelling tests. Then during the regular test, she would just sit quietly and read a book. Every child is different, learns different, and all teachers "should" know that. I'm glad he can make friends easily, but confidence could be with his academics as well. I would point blank ask the reasons he is being retained, because if he tested okay in math and reading, then I'm too sure why they would want to retain him unless it is some of the other things I posted earlier. Just ask and don't be afraid to. That is your right as the parent. :-)

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Crystal - posted on 09/22/2012

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I totally understand your frustrations. I have a soon to be 8 yr old that was diagnosed with ADHD/ODD in Nov. 2011. I had questioned it in K. Was told by pediatrician to see how she done in the 1st grade. This is a kid who was sent to the office on a regular basis while in K. Nobody suggested that I have her tested then. They had to real response when I had said I was going to ask the pediatrician what she thought. When she got n the 1st grade the teacher suggested that I have her tested for the ADHD. I took letters from the school to the pediatrician and had her tested. I got the results the first week of Nov. We set up Behavioral Therapy and I started her on an all natural med. The therapist asked that we do a Daily Report Card with the teacher. That way we could see how things where going at school. I had to demand that this happen. The teacher said she had tried this herself and it didn't work. I had made it very clear that I wanted to know if there were any issues through out the year. I had explained how K had went for her. The teacher assured me that she would let me know if there was anything she couldn't handle by herself. I didn't get the communication I was after all year. Even after asking numerous times. I always got a defensive/ negative response from the teacher. I never got anything positive from the teacher. I met with the principle addressed my concerns. I told her that it seemed like my child was able to walk around the class most of the day. I was told no that wasn't the case at all. After doing some research on the computer I found out that I could ask for my daughter to be evaluated for special educational provisions. I sent the letter requesting the evaluation to the head of special education. I got an immediate response back they would get things going in a week. I informed the principle that I had requested the evaluation. The response I got was that they were already doing some type of testing on her. I had no idea that any testing was going on. The principle asked if the teacher had told me about the testing. I told her no and that I had the ADHD/ODD diagnosis on my daughter. Which the teacher did not tell the principle about. The principle dot defensive when told I was having the evaluation done. I got the approval within about 2 weeks of sending my request. I had to wait till school started to get the complete evaluation done due to the end of school. I was able to get her an IEP. My daughters report card was all N's with the exception of science/social studies /music etc.. . In the middle of the year the where talking about retaining her in the 1st grade. I was ok with it if necessary. I ha asked the teacher to tell me if she was seeing a change after i started meds and therapy. I never got a really answer. However, we are now repeating the 1st grade. My daughter tested below in all areas off academics and a reading level of 3 at the end of last school year. My daughter was tested a few days ago and is at grade level at this time. I strongly believe that the school and the teacher failed her last year. Well the last 2 yrs of school. I have a teacher this year who seems to care a little more. I don't feel that my daughter is a problem to have in class. That has been the feeling for the last 2 yrs. When I got the results from the evaluation the teacher said "My daughter demonstrates very serious and very disruptive inattentive, overactive, and uncooperative behaviors in the classroom: She plays with objects, talks to herself and others, gets out of her seat and walks around the room most of the day, doesn't follow rules or procedures, and is manipulative." I was very upset when I read this. This is what I had been asking for since I got the diagnoses back in Nov..Had I had this information then I could have changed her meds and got her on track at the start of last school year. I am so frustrated about the lack of communication from the teacher and school last year. I strongly believe that if she can test at grade level a month after school started she wasn't that far behind. I think if could have tested better if meds where changed earlier last year. Hoping for the best this year. I made it very clear my daughter will not have another year like she has had for the past 2 yrs. I will be in the school and I will go to the superintendent if there are problems.I have learned along the way that I will be more persistent with the school and not assume they are doing everything that they should. I requested to meet with the new teacher and inform her about my daughter ADHD/ODD before school started in Aug..The teacher wasn't informed until I meet with her. I suggest that you meet with the teachers before school starts and explain the situation to the. I found I have better communication this year since I meet before school was in session. Don't give up and do a lot of research on the issues at hand. I hope things go well for your son.

Ann - posted on 06/14/2011

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Wanda thank you for responding. i am sure he will be ok with it. She was a strict teacher and didn't wont to hear what i had to say. So next year if i find problems in the beginning i will ask for a new teacher.

Wanda - posted on 06/14/2011

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Hi sorry to hear about your sons probems I have a 18 year old born with downe's syndrome I am new to this site so I hope i never will say anything to offend any of you my daughter is in special ed classes and she an IEP which is an Individualized Education Plan I have meetings I go to when tranportion is provided if not there have been times the teacher will do a phone interview or send the iep home which I look over and if there is anything I do not like I let them know.
I feel that the teacher should of communicated better I am not juding you I had a problen with Brittany during middle school in 2007 she for one had a strict teacher and I said oh Lord from day one well she got to where britttany was to her having behavioral problems and I ended up sending her to an alterntative school which I always felt her behavorial problems were not that bad.

I say if there is a way you fight its probably to late and he will have to repeat the first grade but this teacher I would every chance I can stay on top of her to me some of them care and some dont I hope you dont have a hard time telling him if you are he has to repeat the first grade.

Again I hope I did not say anything to offend you

Sarah - posted on 06/13/2011

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Many children find reading aloud stressful and diffiicult, even when they have all the skills to comprehend the text, and I can imagine that would be even more the case for a child with speech/hearing problems.

Constance - posted on 06/12/2011

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I would insist that they test him on the work for this year. If he passes then he should be promoted and if he doesn't then it would probally be for the best for him to go through the grade again. If he has an IEP then I would get th team involved and the head of special education.
The teacher should have absolutly informed you that he was having a really tough time and was endanger of failing. I wouldn't be quiet about this. I know when it comes to my kids I don't stop.

Vikki - posted on 06/12/2011

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I don't think that placing blame is important in this. It's nobody's fault, things go wrong and with the overcrowding in the schools it is hard to get the one on one attention every child deserves. You sound like you are a caring and loving mom and in your heart you know what is best for your baby. Nobody knows your children like their moms. If your school won’t or can't help, do you know of any programs that you could check into? Maybe talk to the school counselor and see if they know of any that could help. What is important is preparing your kids to be outstanding and productive members of society and it really doesn’t matter at what age they graduate just that they do. Your son's future is important and I believe in your heart you already know what he needs. I wish you the best!!

Jane - posted on 06/12/2011

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Does your school have a resource teacher or resource class? This is our local name for a teacher who works with kids who have a particular area in which they do poorly, such as reading and spelling. The kids go from their regular class to the resource teacher, where she works with only three of four kids at a time. This is put into the IEP during an ARD meeting so it has to be followed. It has helped my son (who has different problems, although one of them is that not everything he hears makes to his brain). With the right resource teacher this can really help.

And yes, this class is part of special education usually, but is for kids with learning problems, not retardation or severe cerebral palsy or other extreme problems.

Ann - posted on 06/12/2011

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no he dose not have a problem with his eyes. as part of my routine for going back to school in august every year we do the close shopping go to the doctor and get a eye exam before they even go to school so we can catch that kind of thing before school work suffers. the spelling he is leaving voles or putting them in the wrong order all the other letters are there. but we work all week on even the the morning of the test and can spell them alright but when he goes to test he fails it miss spells almost every word. the hearing thing he can hear but not all sounds make it to the brain. the doctor said that hairs in the ear works like a firing pin sounds come in and they are so-post to send it to the brain. not all the vibrations make it to the translation part of the brain. there is really nothing we can do with his hearing problem but he can hear in the other ear that is why he haves to sit up front. but to punish him she puts him in the back of the class where he can't hear her at all. i know this because he and his older brother that goes to the same school haves told me about it. I called her on it and that is when she stopped talking to me because i said how can you expect him to learn if he can not hear you. i was very mad that day I ended up having to talk to the principle because she got smart with me.

Ann - posted on 06/12/2011

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thank you every one for your input. I have done many things to talk with his teacher and she dose have a big class. That is why i wonted to email and talk to her more often like i do with my other kids teacher's but i didn't get to with her. I am going to ask for another teacher next year. so the new question is sins he tested at 2 grade for math and reading will he be bored next year sins she said the problem is spelling and reading aloud. i am not sure if she had any other concerns with confidence or not she did say he makes friends easily.

Brianna - posted on 06/11/2011

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the homework being misplaced is on u and him. but i do agree that the teacher should of been telling u a long time ago that something that was wrong. also that most improved aways would have really thrown me off it would of made me think that everything was ok. i would be really pissed at the teacher and would be going to see the principle to complain because she should of said something a long time ago.

JuLeah - posted on 06/11/2011

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I am not judging.

Many things factor into this. Good for you for not just going along with the ADHD label. There are so many other things to rule out before you start assigning such labels.

Ask the school what programs you can enroll him in over the summer .... does he struggle with math, reading, or writing? What exactly are their concerns?

Talk with his speech teacher and make sure he is making progress and make sure you know how to keep working with him at home.

Read to him every night, that is critical.

Having him repeat the first grade might not be a bad idea. Many kids, especially boys, repeat kindergarten, or start one yr later then a girl might. So, if they hold him back make sure he understands he is smart, he is capable, you are proud of him, and many kids repeat a year.

It is much better to repeat the first grade then the 10th.

Next year make sure you have weekly contact with the teacher so you can find out early on if they have concerns or issues.

As a parent we often trust the school to do what they should be doing by our kids, but classrooms are over crowded, the money is not there for many needed programs. and some kids fall though the cracks. We have to be on top of things in a new way.

My sister’s boy was in the 4th grade when she realized he could not read, at all. No teacher had ever expressed concern to her about his reading. It happens, kids fall through the cracks.

I am sure by the end of next year he will be a confident successful student.

Sarah - posted on 06/11/2011

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I'm not sure how it works where you are, but in the UK every school has a Special Needs Co-ordinator, who is a teacher whose job it is to oversee and support the input needed for children with special needs, eg referrals to therapists. See if you can get an appointment with her, if your school has one.

Jane - posted on 06/11/2011

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Several things:

Review his IEP to be certain it includes everything he needs to be successful, not just "for Speech." Does he have hearing aids? Does he need an aide to help translate what he says? Does he need to be on "Homework Watch"? Does he need a tutor? Is there anything else he really needs in order to be successful at school?

Feel free to request an ARD meeting at any time that you feel communication is not happening between you and the school. If they ignore you do it in writing and send a copy to the Superintendent.I always request one right at the beginning of school to be certain my son's teacher knows about his IEP. A full ARD meeting involves about 6 people from the school so there are witnesses that know the teacher has been informed. If you feel intimidated (teachers learn very quickly how to bulldoze parents) consider getting an advocate. I don't know where you are, but in Texas they have Advocacy Inc. which will help out. I had an advocate from CPS at one point because they felt the school wasn't dealing well with my son.

Find a program this summer that will allow him to catch up and make sure the school is fully aware. Perhaps agree to placement testing when school starts this fall.

If the school "thinks" your child is ADHD, request that the school test your son or pay for you to have him tested. If it turns out that he is ADHD there are a number of things you can do short of medicating that will help him.

Develop a system so that YOU can keep track of his homework and make sure he turns it in. You may have to keep this up until he finishes high school. Some kids simply need extra help with keeping track.

Bear in mind that kids with hearing impairment often lag behind simply because they don't hear everything they need to. Also, while you may not like it, it is okay if the school thinks you are a "helicopter mom" (always hovering over your son), or a "persistent parent." That just means they know you are keeping an eye on things so they had better do what your son needs.

Good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 06/11/2011

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As a parent it is your responsibility to make sure he has his assignments turned in. If a child needs speech and you feel he is not getting the proper speech at school go somewhere else. It would be an injustice to your child if you don't listen to his teacher and let him repeat the first grade.He will do much better in the future if you follow this suggestion..Stay as involved as you can & let the teacher know that nothing is more important than your childs education.

Michelle - posted on 06/11/2011

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I never read everyone's posts but if he does stay back will he have the same teacher as it sounds like you and the teacher clash and there for problems arise. I hope everything works out for your son.

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You can request that your son be tested and have an Individual Education Plan (IEP) created for him. If after one marking period, there is no improvement, then by law, in Massachusetts at least, they have to pay for him to attend another school that can help him. It sounds as if the school professionals are not on the ball.

Heidi - posted on 06/11/2011

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Communication seems to be the issue. I work at a school and unless the previous teacher or sped teacher tells the new teacher it won't be in their regular file. That is a whole different file...well at least in our state it is.

In our state the school cannot not test if a parent requests for his/her child be tested for services. The IEP has to be followed no matter what. I would also suggest to start a journal and make sure you are documenting what is going on.

Amanda - posted on 06/11/2011

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As for the fault, public schools fall short with any kid that's not a "clone child", or "typical" as some may say. You have to stay on them like white on rice, as I say, and
if you don't they may not respect the IEP and if you do they just think you are overbearing. I'd just keep my cool and go over the teacher's head with that IEP. It is legal grounds they MUST follow. If they didn't follow it this past year, you could have grounds to move him ahead due to faulty teaching.

Schyla - posted on 06/11/2011

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If you feel that the teacher let him down go above her head and ask the princapal to have him tested to see if he's ready for 2ed grade that will answer a lot of questions. Also next year no matter what grade your little one is in arange with his teacher to have a folder that ALL his work goes into and you both have to sign it. That is what we did with my youngest brother and he's in high school it worked great and the teachers even started making it a requirment with both the parents and the teachers signature next to the assignment you'll be able to see whats turned in and whats not and be right on top of those that are missing and help him find them. You sound like you tried and I would suggest that BEFORE school starts next year you call about a week ahead and go talk to his new teacher to make sure she's aware of his hearing. Honestly being held back one year this early isn't going to be a huge deal and will give your little one time to catch up! regardless of rather or not your little guy's teacher let him slip through the cracks or not!

Amanda - posted on 06/11/2011

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I can help. My daughter gets speech and I work with her a lot and have learned much from her therapist. Give me a call. 797-7356

Ann - posted on 06/11/2011

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i had to fight with a school before for one of his older brothers just wish they would listen to me when i ask for testing to be done I don't do it looking for some thing to be wrong i do it because i hope that nothing is wrong i hope next year he haves his a teacher that does not think i am trying to tell her how to do her job. That dose not see him as just another kid. As far as adhd his dr laugh and said no he doesn't. he have know him all his life he would have cough it way before now. besides he haves been in school for 3 years now and this is the first teacher that haves said this. Doctor said for him to be in the front of the class because he was goofing off because he couldn't hear her and was getting bored. When he was moved to the front of the room in the beginning of the year she even changed her mind about it.

Heidi - posted on 06/11/2011

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I would have to agree with Jodi. I feel the parents are their child's best advocate. It's up to you to be checking on his progress. I know how frustrating it can be. I have a child with a learning disability as well. He has struggled with self confidence as well.

I can only imagine how hard it is to hear that they want to retain your child. I think looking at it as failing him is the wrong attitude. Another year to build his self confidence and do what a 1st grader is suppose to be able to do will only set him up for success as a 2nd grader.

I know most teachers think really hard about retaining a child and they don't look at it as failing them. You need to know exactly why they want to retain him, you need to be the one to request a meeting with her, and I would even consider having the principal there as well.

You mentioned that the teacher mentioned adhd, have you had any diagnosis either way?

Ann - posted on 06/11/2011

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sorry didn't put every thing in. I requested time and time again to talk to his teacher was told they would get back to me they never did and when i would go to the school in person there was a i am sorry but i don't have time right now. I went to all but the last one. the only ones we had was for his IEP. That was when the teacher keep saying she can not under stand what he is saying. As far as his hearing it should have been in his records from the year before it was in his IEP but the teacher said she didn't have a chance to read it sins it was for speech. The hearing test and problems was all in her records from the year before she just never took the time out to read them. I am a very involved parent the home work was being done put in his back pack and when he got to school they are to put it in there desk where it was going from there i do not know. But that was only a couple times in the beginning of the year. As far as missed day like i said only 5 all covered by a doctor that is why i said the teacher can not blame that. My main thing is at any one of the meetings in the all the way up till the 3 marking period. when the teacher was not trying to talk to me any more she could have told me he was failing but she said nothing in the IEP meetings about it because i asked she would say he is improving i don't get it what happened after the 3 marking period. The award was just given to him 3 weeks ago. i finely hear back for the meeting that i asked for and they give me a 3 day notice. I had been fighting for a meeting for 2 months. As far as working together even the speech teacher said she dose not under stand this. The only reason i finally got this meeting was because i got the principle involved and when i seen i was not going to make it to this one i called and asked if it could be moved to next week to give me time to request off and was told no that was the only time she had. i am going to go back on Monday to talk to the principle again with another parent that is having the same problem i met her on Friday. I asked the teacher back in January if she thinks we should test for learning issues because in his home work i seen some problems and she said she doesn't think its a problem most kids do it. I told her his older brother the one with the learning disability did the same thing. Don't get me wrong i am not saying she is all to blame i should have went up there every day till i got to talk I just don't get it she was fine till the 3 marking period no problems with talking to me other then me asking for her to email me when he is in need of help and if the home work starts to disappear again. That was also when i asked for him to be tested for a learning issues. sorry so long trying not to leave any thing out o yea we had meetings right before the end of each marking period this school haves 4 and it started a week before Easter. I was told by his brother that she was putting him in the back of the room and i called the school to ask why I think this is why she stopped talking to me. i am not worried about him having to do it again i am worried she miss something because the test that was done was not for learning disability's it was for him to have a translator for next year. I don't wont him to have to go throw what i went throw. I was held back a couple times then finally in 8th grade. i had a teacher that didn't see me as just another kid and that took the time to find out why i was having problems. I am dyslexic and i wont to make sure my kids don't fall throw the cracks like i did that is why. I think she just thinks i am a over baring mom. I just don't wont to find out after 8 years that we could have done something sooner. I go to all of there functions every award every lunching. I do all kinds of things to make them know i am here for them.

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What is it exactely that you are worried about? Are you worried that he will not be the same age as the others in his class? Are you worried about the stigma of having failed a year? Are you worried that his teacher wasn't competent enough? Perhaps you should truthfully answer these questions for yourself from within your own heart as though it were you there were 6 again. Would you want to fail your first grade and then excel afterward? Or would you want to pass first grade only to fail in middle school after you have formed lifelong friendships and children have become cynical and degrade each other on a daily basis. So what if he's older than the others, would that not give you an advantage of being the first in his class to reach important milestones from now till he graduates? Before the end of next year he will have readjusted to the new set of friends and the new year without a second thought about it because kids are just made that way. They are made to learn what WE teach them. The other commenters are correct, it is YOUR responsibility to be an advocate for your child. That child is special to YOU because you are their parent. It is however just another student to the teacher, one of 20 or more that she has to get through another year without help from the parent. Remembering to send you an email address is quiet frankly the least of her worries! She has a bunch of kids parents to deal with, you only have one teacher! If you don't take the time to be the hero for your child, no one else will. Does the first grade have more than one teacher? Perhaps you could request him being placed in a different room this year? That would give him a new experience and give you a second chance to form a relationship with his teacher. Yes, I said relationship! It is a very, very important one that could make or break his year. I realize you have to work, most moms do these days, but schedule an hour or two off from time to time and just show up at school. You should be welcome to visit at anytime, if your not, somethings not right. Just show up and tell them you just came to check on your kids. Ask them how the day is going, do they have any questions, is there anything that you need to discuss with their teacher, etc. You'd be amazed at how it can make a child feel, to know that you were concerned enough about them to take the time out of your busy day just to check on them. IMO

Katherine - posted on 06/11/2011

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He probably need to go back to first grade just based on what you've told me.
Assignments not being turned in, not making it to conferences, missing school. It's all very important. And if you let him go to second he's not going to know what he needs to know.

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