Five year old fears

Cheri - posted on 10/31/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Since school started my son has developed a fear of EVERYTHING. First he is petrified of the bus so I drive him everyday. Second we lost his grandmother Sept. 16th. Since then he is scared to be in any room of the house alone. He won't go to the bathroom he won't go to sleep at night sometimes it takes two to three hours to get him to sleep. We have tried bad dream away spray (air freshener) singing while doing something scary ect. Any help would be appriciated because the doctor only help is conseling.

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Jennifer - posted on 11/27/2011

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My 5 year old child just started developing various fears such as going to sleep, his parents dying, and dying in general is this normal?

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Krissy - posted on 10/31/2009

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As far as the school bus take him to the school bus garage for him to get on a school bus with you and look around. With his grandmother passing away, first I'm sorry to hear about you losing her, counsling maybe the best idea. My daughter has been in counsling since she was 2. When we move she wanted me to find her another counslor. It gives them someone to talk to. It sounds like there is a lot going on in his little mind. You could try rewards for him facing his fears. Hope I helped a little. Good luck. GOD bless!

Weslie - posted on 10/31/2009

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Sometimes children at young ages experience things we don't. I use to see ghosts constantly at age 5. I was terrified. My parents thought I was having bad dreams. I eventually grew out of it. Never underestimate a childs fears. Let your child know you believe him. When a child can put their faith in you it gives them hope. Continue to console your child when he is afraid of rooms, darkness, etc.. He will grow out of this. Therapists are great, just don't let them convince you to medicate your child. Medicine isn't needed when children aren't ill. Just try and open your mind. Don't lose patience.

Shel - posted on 10/31/2009

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i wud bare with him. making him do things he's petrfied off cud effect him sycologicly (sorry bout the spelling ) try asking him to it every few months and tell him he'l be such a big boy doing it, (even if he dont ) all with reasurence tho, even if he says he will say he'l do something and then backs down from it means he's that little bit closer of over coming it xx

Cheri - posted on 10/31/2009

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Just to explain a little better he is not just afraid of the bus he is terrified. First he has been taught since birth that he has to be in a car seat hence no car seat or even seat belts on the bus. Second he colored a picture on the second day of school after riding the bus the first day, of school children running from a school bus and his interpretation was that the bus rolled over a cliff and that their was blood everywhere and that is why the kids were running. Sol tough love is not an option.

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Sometime, I find the hardest things for kids are tough love. Make him ride the bus. If you give in to his fears at a young age then they'll rule him his whole life. As, for the lose of his grandma he does need to talk to someone like a counselor thats very traumatic for someone so young and children's biggest fear at that age is the unknown. My daughter is very close to her grandma and she only moved far away and my daughter cries every other night at the lose of her grandma. I just cuddle and we call her. Are you able to talk about the person you lost. Sometimes, when you talk out loud about the good things you remember about the person you lost it helps the little ones. We all have different techniques these may not be right for you but I hope it helped a little.

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