Sarah - posted on 10/27/2012 ( no moms have responded yet )
My five year old fights me on everything I ask him to do, from brushing his teeth to putting on clothes, it turns into a fighting match with us and tears. Everything seems like an act of rebellion. His father and I have had a long history of instability and frequent arguing that has led to even physical abuse. I am a survivor of a lifetime of abuse and I am trying to put my life back together, with my 8 year old from my only marriage and my five year old from my most recent long term relationship. I dont want to victimize myself, but why does it feel as if I can not get the respect I deserve. I want to be there for both my sons, but all i hear is everyone's negativity and how much I suck as a mother, which I dont, and which I get praise for from others in my life. Im a single mother with two fathers of my children who try to take cars away from me, contribute nothing financially and belittle me as a mother with power and control at every chance they can get. How do I move forward and regain peace and respect in our household? How can someone who treats the mother of his son horribly get respect and no resistance from his child? I feel like Im failing and it hurts that I have to try this hard to get cooperation but the fathers are golden...