Five year old screaming melt downs. Help.

Shannintipton - posted on 12/26/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )

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She having complete melt downs because she wants something and she wants it NOW. I tell her in a minute and she becomes unglued. My thinking is not to give in to these tantrums because she will think that is how to always get her way. I tell her as soon as she calms down I will then do it. What ever it may happen to be. She will not stop screaming at the top of her lungs. I would love to just give in but I think that would be wrong and create a bigger monster in the long run. I have tried putting her in her room for time outs and she flings herself back out into my room. Here is my question. Why is it so bad to spank or smack a child that is completely out of control. On the butt of course. Please tell me because I am at my wits end. Thank you.

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Kelina - posted on 12/26/2011

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If she's having a tantrum try putting her in a safe place where she can go to town. My son's room everything is bolted to the wall so I'm not too worried about him pulling stuff over on himself if he decides to get angry physically. I know I did many a time as a kid :) One thing we have done is put a baby gte up on his bedroom door, always on the side of the hinge so that he can't push it over. Also if you don't have something you can use as a naughty spot the naughty chair works really well too. We started doing that at my friends house worked wonders with our boys who seem to bring out the worst in eachother. You're right not to give into the tantrums, and there's nothing wrong with a spank every now and again if it's done in a calm controlled manner, and not in anger. which means usually after they aren't pushing your buttons anymore lol.

Michelle - posted on 12/26/2011

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What were you all doing when she had these melt downs if she was tired or was sick those two things can make bad behaviour worse. I suppose I'm asking if there are any patterns to the melt downs and if there is you could try to avoid the situations from happening and distract her before she has the melt down or something like that

Michelle - posted on 12/26/2011

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Have you ever watched Jo Frost's show? She uses the naughty spot method. Somewhere which is visable and is a boring spot, then she gets down to the kids level and says what the kid has done wrong and the kid stays in the spot 1 min per age, if the kid moves from the spot then you put them back without speaking then once the time is up and the kid is calmed down then the kid must apologies for their bad behaviour. The father also needs to be able to do the naughty spot if both parents aren't doing the dicipline then one parent is the good parent and the other is the bad parent in your kids eyes so you both need to agree on what punishment your going to do and both do it.

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Shannintipton - posted on 12/26/2011

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Oh good question. She may have been tired. But not sure. I will look at see if there is a pattern to the time of day or what is going on at the moment. Like is brother bothering her. But he was sick today so it wasnt him. I dont know. I will definitely keep any eye out for anything. Thanks again.

Shannintipton - posted on 12/26/2011

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I have heard of her. But I have not watched the show since my daughter was born. Ironic isnt it. I considered her room a good place for a time out but I see what you are saying about a naughty spot. I guess I could have one for both upstairs and downstairs. It was such a battle. Then afterwards she was all lovey dovey and did apologize. But this is like the third time she has had a complete melt down. She has had fits before but this was different. I really dont want it to become a habit. So I think I will try that. Thanks.

Shannintipton - posted on 12/26/2011

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mark came and got her and she calmed down sort of for him. but she gives me a hard time. whyyyyyyyyyyy???? shesh

Shannintipton - posted on 12/26/2011

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she keeps flinging and inching her way out of her room and into my. it was crazy and i am afraid this is going to become a pattern. i want to nip this in the bud. i have to say i feel like spanking her but not when i am so angry. i just keep talking deep breaths and put in my ear plugs and try to ignore it. its not working. this went on for i would say twenty long long minutes. ugh

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Personally, I don't think it's so bad.... Especially if it's done w/ extreme rarity. It could be enough of a shock to snap her out of it.

Of course, that's the exact opposite of what many people will answer, so.... what happens if you just keep putting her back in her room?

Shannintipton - posted on 12/26/2011

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PS. I am looking at other threads too. Just so you know. *sigh*

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