fixed exclusion

Di - posted on 07/22/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My 9 year old son has been excluded for 4 days which I think is too much for kicking a drainpipe when the playground teacher told him he couldn't play football on the playground with his studs on. He had a tantrum kicked the drainpipe then I got a phone call to come and pick him up. I have already suspect my son might have A DID how do I get him tested for this?

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Jodi - posted on 07/22/2015

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If the new school has that many pastoral care and specialist workers, you will probably find it will be easier for him to transition. I would definitely consider having him evaluated. There could be a processing disorder too - I find many students with processing disorders struggle with transition as well. But given this is the internet, I can't say why he reacts this way, but transition issues aren't uncommon.

In the meantime, be really consistent with your consequences of this kind of behaviour (because regardless, it is not okay) and use it as an opportunity to teach him how ELSE he may have been able to cope or deal with the situation. Questions such as, "do you think there may have been a different way we could have dealt with this" or "is there another way we could possibly find a way to calm down". Help him look for alternative ways of managing situations that will result in the same outcome - that he is feeling less anxious about it. He needs someone to teach him alternative strategies to deal with his emotions in difficult situations.

Jodi - posted on 07/22/2015

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Has your son been diagnosed with autism?

Many children have difficulties with transition, those with autism, those with significant trauma, as well as any number of others. Changing schools is not going to make a difference to the difficulties with transition - instead, you should all be working together to prepare him for the transition and have measures in place to support him. You need to work with the school around this.

Jodi - posted on 07/22/2015

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Your son misbehaved and clearly broke the rules. I'll also put money on it that it isn't the first time - in which case, it might explain the lengthy exclusion. If you suspect ADHD, start with your doctor and get the referrals you need. However, getting a diagnosis will still not make his behaviour ok.

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Di - posted on 07/22/2015

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Also his old school have not supported him at all through transition even though they know he needs it during transition time which is another reason he is going to a new school in September. I have explained to his new school that he needs support during transition and what it resulted in in his old school. The new school said they would give him extra support and they have an educational psychologist and 5 pastoral teachers on board.

Di - posted on 07/22/2015

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Hi no he has not even had a diagnosis I did go to see the doctor last year and told him that he got excluded for 1 day ( the 1st time) he through a tantrum during the time he moved from year 3 to year 4 but the doctor seemed to think all boys go through this but I can see a pattern now as it's happened again during transition. Do you think I should go back to the doctors and ask for a diagnosis?

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