Jessica - posted on 10/28/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )
So I left my ex husband 3 years ago almost and he had full custody of our kids. I moved out of state and have not had anything to do with my kids for almost 3 year. Both my fault and the fathers fault because he would not let me. But my son died last year due to a fetynal overdose and his dad was taken to court because of it. Well I got a lawyer to keep up on the case so if my daughter got taken out of home I could try and get custody of her. Well my lawyer told me it would be a huge battle to try and get custody of her because I have not had anything to do with her in almost 3 years. The Law Guardian who is representing my daughter say's she is happy and doesn't not want to move and so he would not be in my favor for custody. So is it selfish of me to want something to do with her now? I don't plan at this moment to go after custody I plan to possible just do phone conferences, webcam sessions, and visitations. I am trying to keep what is best for her and what she would want in the picture instead of what I want. Any ideas or help?
Today I found this out....Ok so I had my daughter's Child Advocate talk with my daughter and supposedly the only memory she has of me is me slapping her...which if that would have been the case it would have been a spanking but nothing more...She also say's that she hasn't seen me in 2-3 years and does not what to see or talk to me. I fear that her father may be influencing her but don't know for sure. I also don't know since I want what is her best interests if I should continue to try and have contact with her or since she wants me supposedly to stay out of her life if I should just leave her be...She's only 5 so I'm not sure what is best.