Rebecca - posted on 01/15/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
Hi guys. I'm new to this forum, and I come here in desperation over my 10-year old son. It was a step-parent adoption (I'm married to his bio-dad), after he had lived with us for 5 years. When he was about 6 months old, his bio-mom took him away from his dad, and we had no idea where they were-or what he went through. He was eventually taken by CPS and placed with us after his bio-mom was unable to take care of him due to her escalating methamphetamine addiction. I have no idea what his life before us was like.
He showed behavioral problems right from the start. He is a fabulous kid, fun to be around and smart as a whip. However, he is SO HYPER and has difficulty focusing. He has seen a psychologist for the past 5 years, and we've tried countless medications. However, with all this being said-the biggest problem lies with his "stealing" of food.
We don't allow him to eat all the junk he wants, but anytime he is hungry-he is welcome to food. However, he takes food and then hides the evidence. He lies about what he took even when we've watched him take the food. It's almost always food he takes-usually candy or chocolate.
He used to just take from our house, however now he is taking from his teacher's desk, his friends, and now tonight has taken food from his grandmother's house. It's to the point that family don't want him there-and his dad and I are so frustrating its affecting our marriage--not to mention the impact its having on our 8-year old and 4-year old.
I'm wondering if anyone has had any experience with this-or even just some support I suppose. I'm at my wits end, and I find it increasingly hard to be optimistic to my son--because I'm constantly wondering when the next thing he will steal is coming from. Its almost impossible to get respite, because no one wants to have him in their house! Any help is appreciated!!