For medical reasons I could not breast feed my baby and also had a c section my question is will I bond with my son and i will he know am his mom

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Stifler's - posted on 04/29/2012

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I had a c-section and didn't breastfeed either of my kids. You will be there every day giving him bottles, getting up to him at night, feeding him solids when he gets to that, playing this little piggy, cuddling him to sleep, hearing his first words and watching his first steps, planning his first birthday party. Breastfeeding is only a small part of bonding with your kids :)

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Esther there is far more to being a mother than having breasts that produce milk. Being a mother is in loving your child unconditionally, it is staying up all night through a fever, it is playing the same game over and over until you can't stand it anymore but do it anyway because your child loves it so, it is fretting over their first day of school, it is that feeling of pride that you only get when you see your child accomplish something they worked hard at.

As I told a cancer patient who cried over losing a breast, you are more than your breasts. There is more to a mom than our bodies or feeding methods. Your heart is what makes you a mother.

Love him, enjoy him, and take care of both of you. That's what counts.

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You poor thing, don't worry, your son will know who you are and he will know you love him very much. Breastfeeding isn't the only bonding experience in Motherhood so enjoy your little one and the love you will create by just being his Mum. Hugs.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/29/2012

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OF COURSE he will. I know it can be heartbreaking to not be able to BF when planning on it, but you will bond with your son regardless. A boob in the mouth does not make the bond. Loving him, and caring for him, playing, teaching, and holding him create a bond. Just love your son, and he will love you back. Chances are, he already knows your voice from in the womb, knows your hearbeat when you hold him to your chest for hugs, and already knows your scent as "mommy". Congratulations by the way.

Medic - posted on 04/29/2012

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Think about that question.....there are tons of moms who never breastfeed and their kids know that they are mom.



ETA: Kids that are adopted know who mom and dad are and they are obviously not breastfed. Taking care of a child and meeting their needs do more than a boob can.

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Medic - posted on 04/29/2012

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My now 2 year olds whole first 6 days I hardly got to touch her because it was the only 6 days my husband would get to see her till who knew when. She still knew I was mommy and daddy was gone for 10 months and she knew just who he was when he came home. Kids know.

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