Elona - posted on 07/31/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )
I can't seem to find the right community for this so I guess I'll post this here. If anyone knows of a community please let me know.
My daughter is 37 and has ADD without hyperactivity. Her main symptom is impulsivity. The matter is about her manners. My daughter is a caring and lovely person and we pretty much get along well. There is one issue we need help with. I'm thinking of family therapy. I'll give you an example. My daughter lives a block away from me with her son, my grandson. Yesterday, I went to her house and her friend and grandson and her were having pizza. I sat down and joined the conversation for about 10 minutes. Out of courtesy I asked if I could have a half a slice of pizza. She hadn't offered anything at all. She said no. She wanted to save it for my grandson. I was insulted. This seems to happen a lot. The other day, my grandson who is 13 had a bag of chips. He didn't offer me any. I asked if I could have a chip. He said "no". Then he went to my daughter and said I was asking him for his food. My daughter told me to stop. There are tons of examples of this which I could tell you, but it's way too long. My daughter is generally a giving person. She just doesn't like to share anything. I think it's selfish. When it comes to food I have raised her to share her food. I don't know how to approach her. It's getting out of hand and I'm concerned it's going to rub off on my grandson. Can any of you give me any ideas that might help. I've approached her and it doesn't go anywhere.
Thanks so much!