Trish - posted on 03/16/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )
I'm hoping someone out there can help me figure out how to encourage my niece Alex to make friends. She's smart and a sweet girl but is not very sociable, probably because she's been to 13 schools and is just now finishing 7th grade. She's making As and Bs and just got accepted into a better school for next year; the school she's in now is full of kids that don't try and/or don't care.
The problem is, she doesn't seem interested in making new friends. She was raised in an only child environment where her mother discouraged her from having friends over or visiting her friends' homes. Due to family circumstances she cannot visit with ANY members of the family without me supervising. I'm applying to be her foster mother and hope to eventually adopt her, but right now I'm the only in-person "friend" she has. This isn't a healthy situation for either of us but I don't know what to do about it. She has friends on social media but seems completely uninterested in doing anything but hanging around the house talking to me. I love her dearly but she needs friends her own age (and I need some "me" time back).
I never had children; I love them but was always happy being an aunt. However, I love Alex and want to help her. As summer approaches I'm wondering what I can do to encourage her to get out and meet people and prepare for a new school year. Unfortunately I'm not a religious person and do not attend church, and there are no kids her age in my inner-city neighborhood of small old Tudor homes. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!