Lisa - posted on 03/13/2012 ( 226 moms have responded )
My husband and I have two sons, ages 14 and 18. Both boys live at home. Our oldest, whom I'll call Jack, admitted to my husband (his Dad) and me that he'd lost his virginity some time ago, with no further details. Both my husband and I are conservative Christians, and have always tried to instill good morals in both our sons. Having, myself, gotten pregnant out of wedlock at age 21 and having had to deal with the consequences (in my case, my baby's father left me, and I ended up placing the baby for adoption), I had taught my boys that they should practice abstinence until marriage. Because of societal pressures that make losing one's virginity just another "rite of passage," I suppose my admonitions fell on deaf ears. I say this because, tidying up Jack's room the other day, I found an unopened box of condoms! Jack does not presently have a steady girlfriend, so I hope he's not planning to take advantage of his young adult singleness and "sleep around." If you ladies were me, should I confront Jack and ask him what his intentions are with the condoms (which will be mortifyingly uncomfortable) or keep my mouth shut and simply be thankful that he is trying to practice "safe sex"? After all, he IS 18...