Found out accidentally my 16 year old daughter is sexually active, Advice please

Melissa - posted on 12/04/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 16 and has been in a relationship for 2 years. Maybe i am naive but i was shocked to find the birth control pills in her room when looking for something else. She is very clever at school, a school leader, plays sport, debates,dances etc. etc. I'm not sure when they have found the time! Her and her boyfriend went to a family planning clinic together, so are being responsible. I have talked to her but i am dissapointed she didn't come to me, and concerned that she is emotionally too young for this. Alot of her emotional behaviour over the last couple of months is now making sense. My husband feels our trust has been betrayed because she must have been lying to us about where she was, to find time to have sex. 24 hours after I found out she went overseas for 2 months on student exchange, so i have some time to formulate responses and find the best way to work thru this for me and my husband.I would love some advice.

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Melissa - posted on 12/04/2013

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Thanks Linda, I spoke to the boys mum, we have a good relationship. She couldn't believe it either. I said take a couple of days to digest it and ring me back. We haven't spoken again yet. I agree with you about not trying to break them up, I think that usually backfires on the parents. How we will move forward from this I don't know.

Linda - posted on 12/04/2013

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I am so sorry to here this! My daughter also has had sex with her boyfriend and it was hard for me to find out. Just talk to her boyfriends parents about the situation, and find out if your are okay with it. Don't make them break up.

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