Frequent night feeds - what to do?

Ayman - posted on 08/31/2012 ( 25 moms have responded )

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Dear fellow mommies,



I have five month old twin boys that were both almost sleeping through the night (5-5.5 hours) for a month or two. Suddenly, for the past 8 days twin A started getting up every 2.5 hrs at night - during the day he eats every 4 hrs and I give him a supplement (he's breastfed) before bedtime. I have tried changing him, holding him, rocking/ singing and trying to burp him - to make sure nothing is wrong with him, He stops crying when I hold him and as soon as I put him down, he starts crying. My husband has done this too - in case he smells me when I pick up. We have tried CIO as well. The only thing that calms him down is feeding him - and he falls asleep...One point to note is that he self soothes to fall asleep at bedtime - but not when he wakes up in the middle of the night. His brother, B continues his normal sleep time (about 5 hours).



I usually feed them one after another to sync them up and this frequent feeding is starting to exhaust me. I understand (and hope) that this could be a growth spurt and he will go back to his previous schedule. But its been over a week now and he wakes up and cries frequently at night like clockwork. They sleep in our room, so I don't have to walk back and forth each time they want night feeding. Do you think moving them to nursery would help? Or would extreme CIO (like all night) help? I'm hesitant to do so, considering that he may be hungry. Please let me know if you had this issue and what you did about it to other eliminate the issue or at least to make your life better. By the way, my babies refuse to tandem feed, so I feed them back to back.



Thanks in advance,

A very sleep deprived mommy

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Adriane - posted on 08/31/2012

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And not wanting a binkie is not a bad thing at all if he already self-soothes. I think this is just a natural part of development. Been there a few times myself. Think about it. If he is 5 months old, I bet he has been going through some developmental milestones or is working on some, maybe getting a little more active with tummy time, grabbing at things, concentrating on things, etc. Our bodies to adjust to baby's needs. When a sudden growth spurt and increased appetite come, extra feedings just helps speed up the process.

Claire - posted on 09/03/2012

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We did cereal at night at 4 months. Helped a lot. Check with your doctor. But totally ok!

Shaina - posted on 09/02/2012

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Your doing really well!! We tried EVERYTHING with our twins and no matter what we did, at least one always woke up. We did not get even 1 night if solid rest, even 6 hrs, until they were 13 months old!!!! My oldest was sleeping 8hrs a night every night by about 7 minths, starting with that happening here and there around 10 weeks old. Every kid is different, and it sounds like you got some decent sleepers!!! Hes just hungry. He will get through the growth spurt and then baby B will start. My boys slways take turns in spurts too. Your doing great. This time goes by so fast! Enjoy it :)

Lisa - posted on 09/02/2012

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Feed them.. Probable growth spurt and the idea about a bottle for one is great

Melissa - posted on 09/02/2012

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I don't have twins, but my 8 mo daughter is a frequent night feeder. Every 2 hours like clockwork! It's been a yr of that if you count not being able to sleep through end of pregnancy. She didn't use to wake during those feedings until recently. I figured out that she preferred to sleep in my arms while bfing, because she would be asleep until I put her in crib and walked away. Pick her up and she quit crying instantly. SOLUTION: let her fall into DEEPER sleep in my arms after feeding before putting her back in crib. Just 5 minutes and it worked LIKE A CHARM!



She has 2 sharp teeth. When they 1st came in, she of course tested what all they could be used for. She chomped down on me 2 times while feeding. I gave such a shreek, it make HER cry. She decided that was NOT something those razors in her mouth should be used for. We are still happily breastfeeding. I fully expect to be up every 2 hrs at night til she's drinking from a cup! I ABSOLUTELY look for chances to nap, or at least put my feet up after hubby is home.

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Debra - posted on 09/04/2012

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I have Twin sons and the same thing happened to me while i was breastfeeding. If he seems hungry and goes back to sleep after being fed, then he probably is hungry. Although its not recommended i put both of mine on solid foods (baby rice) through the day along with breast milk and they went back to sleeping straight through, 11pm - 6.30am, every night and i havent had any problems since. I hope this helps you :)

Ayman - posted on 09/03/2012

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OK - Update, as we were able to successfully have A sleep for 5 hrs at night - once again!!



We noticed that he calms down after a lot of food - breast milk and then he needs more - so I started supplementing with formula. I was giving him one supplement at night feeds. Now it seems that three supplements at night keep him asleep for 5 hours. Thanks for all your support! I needed it...



Quick question - does anyone think that this may be a sign that my baby needs to start on solids?

Sarahb913 - posted on 09/02/2012

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My daughter (who recently turned 2) didn't sleep well her first full year. The Halo sleep sack and something that makes sound like a humidifier or fan are the recommendations I would make to any new mom. They truly saved my sanity. It's tough not getting any real sleep for so long, I often felt sick and found myself crying over the silliest things... Also, someone to remind you often that "this too shall pass", like someone close to me did. It really does and it's wonderful on the other side :)

Anielyn - posted on 09/02/2012

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mine wakes up every two hours, just to feed, that because, she does not finishes up her milk, usually just two ounces, then back to sleep again, then will be awake after two hours.!

Sara - posted on 09/02/2012

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This is normal for many kids, I know is hard on us moms but is part of being there for them. It will go away as they get older about a year old. To compensate for your sleep loss, try to take a nap with them. It is hard but will pass and you will be better.

Ayman - posted on 09/02/2012

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They Love their swings. We only use it during naps. Did you use it for night as well? How did you wean them from it?

Lynn - posted on 09/02/2012

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Try putting him in a battery powered swing. My kids slept great in theirs when they were little. I put them in it at nap times and got them on a schedule that way. Best baby gift I ever got!

Heather - posted on 09/02/2012

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NO extreme CIO at night!!! He is only 5 months old!!! If he was 12 months old, I'd say go for it. But he's just a little baby. 5 months ago, he was a newborn. :(



He probably is hungry, he probably is missing you. Maybe try putting him and his brother in their own room. Maybe you or your husband are snoring or getting up to use the restroom and this is waking him up? While one twin is a good, hard sleeper, the other one could be a light sleeper and wake up to noises easier. Don't let him CIO, that's mean.

John And - posted on 09/02/2012

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Try sleeping with that sea horse next to your skin so it picks up your scent. Your scent may work to soothe him.

Jennifer - posted on 09/02/2012

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I have twins also and you need to remember if they were premature then you need to adjust their age..they may be 5 month but if they are premature then they really are not..mine did this until they were 7 months..if they are eating a More then an ounce then he is hungry so feed him...I would not wake the other one up..so just feed the one how is awake and I am sure it is a growing spurt...I never let them CIO because I felt like they are crying for a reason and I am there mom and my job is to keep them feeling safe and help them learn to calm down...I would also check to see if you have a multiples group in your area that you can join..it's nice to be able to talk with some one who has twins also...trust me having two is a lot different then one..I have three kids so I know the difference and there is a big difference with twins then just one

Claire - posted on 09/02/2012

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Hope the night went ok. We went on a trip when they were 6 weeks. When we returned.....they were 7.5 weeks.....they went right to cribs in their room. It wasn't so bad. Be sure you have a comfy chair!

Ayman - posted on 09/01/2012

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Yeah. We're planning to do that tonight. Last night was brutal so we decided to split the night shift up. Btw when did you move them to their own room? I'm hoping after they start sleeping thru the night so I don't have to get up each time to feed.

Claire - posted on 09/01/2012

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Tip for getting through....bottle up some milk for A. That way you and your spouse can take turns getting sleep. Set up a schedule so you each can get a solid 3-4 hours in a row. It makes a difference.

Claire - posted on 09/01/2012

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Well, the good and bad news for you is.... I don't know how long it lasted. :) most of the 1st year is kinda a blur! Sleep deprived yes. But good sleep routine and being the same will help when they are awake to go back to sleep faster. Also, we use a noise machine for some white noise. I think it helps when they wake at night. The best news for you is that I am now very used to sleeping all night and don't really remember being up several times.

I breastfed them until they were 10 mths and pumped until almost 1. They decided they were done nursing. With teeth.... I just would unlatch and firmly say no when they bit. They learn fast that biting leads to the milk being taken away.

Ayman - posted on 09/01/2012

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claire: how long did that phase last? Did you stop breastfeeding after the teeth came out?

Claire - posted on 09/01/2012

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This happened to me about the same time. It was twin B who was/is smaller. I think it was a combination between growth spurt and teething. They are 17 months now and from time to time one will still wake up. But it's a phase. It'll pass!

Adriane - posted on 08/31/2012

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Sometimes offering a feeding right before YOU go to sleep will help you get a little more sleep in before having to feed again. Honestly though, it sounds like a growth spurt to me! If nothing is wrong, and he acts hungry and then goes back to sleep when fed, that really sounds like he's just getting in some extra calories. I don't think changing locations would help, especially since he had already been sleeping through the night before this and is used to it.You could try some fenugreek capsules to help increase your milk supply a little faster. When babies do this (suddenly want to eat more often), that is a natural way to get your body to respond to increased appetite and produce more milk to keep up. It won't last forever.

Ayman - posted on 08/31/2012

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Yup. He has a seahorse which he loves. But that didn't seem to work when he woke up middle of night

Kristin - posted on 08/31/2012

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If he self soothes to fall asleep and can't do it when he wakes up in the middle of the night, I would try giving him a bunny when he wakes. have u tried that?

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