Friend leaving me out of convo about post she saw on FB

Sarahpeterson4ever - posted on 06/16/2016 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I was sitting with my small group and the girl from my church who hid her Facebook post about moving from me showed some people her phone and was talking about a Facebook post she saw. When I asked about it, she just said I was just sharing something I saw on Facebook with them. When I asked what it was she wouldn't say and said it doesnt matter its not a big deal. I said I was just trying to be part of the conversation and she said it just didn't pertain to you and wouldn't make sense to you, and I have a different relationship with them. What is that supposed to mean? Why would she share it with them and not show me??
And also, I talked to her and apologized if I came off as being needy or making her feel scared to be herself around me for fear of hurting my feelings or offending me and making it hard to love me and said I felt like she didnt like me anymore and she said you are loved God is good, but wouldnt say whether she loved me because I was lovable and she loved me herself or if she was just trying to love me because God says to love me. When I tried to get her to say what she thinks of me and if she loved me like she did her other friends she kept turning it around to God loves you, yes I know but do you love me and do you want to be my friend. I feel like she doesnt even though she said she did because she said God is helping me love you and you have done nothing to make me love you, it is because I love God and am called by God to love you. So it feels like she is skirting around the issue and not actually saying she doesnt want to be friends with me or doesnt love me because it shouldnt matter because God does. Well I want to know what she thinks of me and whether she honestly loves me because she wants to and thinks Im likable and not out of some obligation from God.

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Jodi - posted on 06/17/2016

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No, she doesn't love you because you are a whiny, needy pain in the ass.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/16/2016

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Honestly???

Let's address your blatant refusal to understand that YOU are being rude, inconsiderate, immature, and pushy. No one has to include you in anything that they do not wish to. PERIOD. End of subject.

One person can have MANY different interests, but that does not mean that they ALL have to align with you and your ideas of what a "friend" really is. If someone tells you that it is between themselves and another party, and you are not included, then that is that. Your parents did you absolutely zero favors when they allowed you to have everything your way no matter what. They did not teach you about reality and how to accept that you aren't going to be included in every friggin minute thing that occurs in a day. Get that through your head and start developing healthier habits that do not include posting ridiculous junior high drama, Facebook, and friend stalking.

If someone wishes to include you, THEY WILL. If they do NOT wish to include you, they will NOT. Accept that, make different friends, if it bothers you that much (but don't be surprised if any new friends start acting like these, if YOU cannot adjust your perception and behaviour). Stop bringing your junior high school drama to a page that is for PARENTING advice and support.

How many children do YOU have?

Dove - posted on 06/16/2016

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Seriously? How old are you? I'm surprised you actually responded to your post again instead of ignoring it like you've done all the others.

You've tried to talk to her... and it sounds like she's trying to blow you off as politely as possible. Time to drop it. I do not know why all these people want nothing to do w/ you, but you can't make people like you and you can't make them talk to you if they don't want to. Give them space. Focus on yourself and your relationship w/ God and the right people will come into your life at the right time.

Ev - posted on 06/16/2016

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I do not know her or her mind but apparently she wants nothing to do with you and is being polite about it to get you to leave her alone. Why do you bug her all the time!?

Sarahpeterson4ever - posted on 06/16/2016

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I need to leave her alone? So she doesnt want to talk to me and share things she saw on FB with me? why not?

Ev - posted on 06/16/2016

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Have you ever thought she just does not want to be friends with you? Not everyone wants to be friends with everyone else. You keep coming here complaining about anything she does or says that does not include you. YOu need to quite stalking her like that. It is exactly what you are doing. You need to find friends who have the same interests as you do and hang with them. Find a hobby and maybe you can find friends. But honestly, if she says it does not pertain to you then it does not. You need to leave this girl alone.

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