Friend's Nieve Trust in 5 year old

A - posted on 07/07/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have a couple of friends that moved into my house with their 5 year old daughter due to loosing their home. We have very basic house rules that were agreed upon for safety reasons and to avoid house damage (ie no toys in the living room and keep the doors locked). It has only been 2 weeks and I found out they have been letting their daughter go into the basement without adult supervision, this was our biggest rule before them moving in since it is unsafe down there. The only reason she is going down there is to wake up her dad if he falls asleep on the futon down there in the man cave section. After talking to them about it they were upset at me for not trusting their child. I don't know how to get them to stop doing this while maintain house peace.

How much do you trust your 5 year old to not take advantage of an opportunity to explore or get into things? What would you do?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/07/2014

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Well, then I'd tell them to start looking for another place to stay.

A gentle reminder of the agreed upon rules is ok, but if they all of a sudden start disregarding the rules that they agreed to, it's time to go.

We stayed with friends during a 4 month moving fiasco. Funny thing was, I was the one that set the rules for all of the kids in their house, including theirs! It was the only way I could keep my sanity...but the family we were staying with was quite undisciplined to begin with, so my setting house rules helped them to maintain house rules after we left...

A - posted on 07/07/2014

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The agreement was no children in the basement, period. And if he is asleep and the mom is on the second floor not paying attention the child gets free range until he wakes up or the mom realizes that she doesn't know what her kid is up to.

When I tried to go over the rules they got upset that I didn't trust their daughter.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/07/2014

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If her father is in the basement, then she's not without supervision. However, if the agreement was no children in the basement, then you need to speak with your friends, and go over the agreed restrictions again.

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