Sarah - posted on 02/13/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )
Two of my girl friends...myself included got married last year, but I am the first one to have a baby out of my group of friends. When I was pregnant, I thought that my friendships wouldn't change, because we always seemed to get together when we were all in town and we have been friends for a long time. I especially thought me friendship wouldn't change with my best friend that I have known for 12 years. But I now have a 5 month old...and I hardly hear from anyone. If I don't text them I don't hear from them. I saw my best friend once since my daughter was born, and she lives only 5 minutes away from me. I will text her telling her I miss her and would like to see her...but it seems like in order for us to hang out we have to plan something in advance like a month or she cancels when we do have plans. My other friend and her husband came home for Thanksgiving..they came over and visited me to see my daughter. It was a really nice visit...and we said we would get togehter the week of Christmas but she ended up sick so we didn't. She then tells me she will be home for about a month around January time...so I told her we can go get lunch...cook at my house...go to the mall..just something etc...when it came time for her and husband to come home I never heard from her. I texted her one day to see if they or she wanted to do dinner a couples date or just a girls afternoon she said year lets plan for something next week. I was excited, because as a stay at home mom...I hardly get out. But I never heard from her. Meanwhile, all of our mutual friends were hanging out together...she and another good friend of ours went to a hockey game together. I was never invited to do anything. Granted a lot of my time is with my baby as it should be, but I feel like a plague lol....even if I couldn't do a hockey game it would have been nice to have been included or just asked if I can go out with them. I heard from my friend, on her way back home..she texted me saying "sorry I couldn't get together with you...I was really busy."
Has anyone had this happen to them? The question of a babysitter isn't an issue. My mom lives with us, when I told her a friend of mine was coming to town, my mom said she would watch my daughter for me to catch up with some friends..or my husband would if he has off.
I just feel abandoned by my friends because I do have a baby. Thought? Advice?