Ariana - posted on 09/19/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
I am a mother of a (almost) 3 year old boy. I go to my friends house quite a bit and she has three daughters. They all are a bit agressive and not disciplined the best but usually pretty good around him. The biggest problem has actually been that my friends youngest daughter, about 18 months, keeps hitting my son. She was also trying to throw hard toys at him last time I was there.
He tends to give a really big reaction to her as he's sort of a youngest child (I watch my half-sister but she's much older so he's basically like the youngest/only child). He yells AHHH and runs away which seems to make her do it more. I first tried telling him to stop running and yelling and tell her to stop it, which he did, but she just went up to him and hit him.
I also try to tell her you can't play with friends you hit and if she does it I try to keep her away from him but sometimes she's very sweet and doesn't do anything to him and then she'll just go over and hit him. I've tried saying 'nice touching' but that doesn't help either. Her mom doesn't really do anything about it and the last time I was there she wacked him over the head with a toy and her mom just said she didn't think her daughter meant to do it, and I simply said she'd been hitting him since we got there.
I think neither of us knows what to do but I know when my son was younger if he did that I'd at least give him a stern 'no, we don't hit'. She doesn't even really say anything and if she does it's very nice like 'be gentle' which isn't helping. I feel at a loss. Do I just keep her away from him? It's hard to seperate them when sometimes she's nice and sometimes she hits him. Plus he's a lot older comparatively so all I've been able to say is stay away from her which is hard for him if we're there for more than 20 minutes. He actually likes her and talks about her when we're away from the house but I would really like to do something to stop the hitting.
What should I do to try and stop her from hitting him? Is there anything that can be done with a 18 month old to stop that sort of thing?