Frustrated and heart broken

Kristeen - posted on 11/28/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I'm 12 weeks pregnant and I've been dating this guy only for 6 months so were not super close. I ended up pregnant and told him a few days ago it has been hell since then. He told me he wanted me to get an abortion and I told him I don't believe in that. He decided that I had made my choice to keep the baby and that he was going to make the choice to not be present in the baby's life. I was heartbroken I really like this guy and hoped to keep dating him and he said he was on board to date me but only If I wasn't pregnant!! So now I'm facing being a single mom. I'm frustrated that he just continues to not want anything to do with the baby, how can you walk away like that?! Well yesterday I got in a heated argument with him and he told me to leave him alone which totally broke my heart because now he wants nothing to do with me as well! I feel totally alone even though all my friends are supportive. I just feel like now he completely shit me out and there is no hope of any contact with him. I really don't know if I can ever repair it

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Kristeen - posted on 11/28/2014

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Just wanted to thank you for your comment makes me feel so much better. Great advice, thank you!

Ev - posted on 11/28/2014

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That is how it seems to happen now these days. A young woman has a relationship of some sort with a guy, sleeps with him and then become pregnant and he wants nothing to do with it. But you can do a few things. I know you might not want much to do with him and you would not have to except for the baby. Once the baby is born put him on child support and set up custody and visitation via the courts. It will protect all three of you and will hold the adults to the court orders. This way the guy at least has to pay support for his child if he does not want to visit with the child and get to know his son or daughter. Its the right of the child to be taken care of and he needs to do that. As for never fixing it...its pretty much true. And do not right now go out there and find someone else. For the time being concentrate on that baby and yourself and then worry about a man later because, honey, you do not have to have a man to survive. I know this from experience different than yours but just the same...I learned to survive without a man. But make sure you do get those court orders for support at the least. And just think of one more thing, he might change his mind in the end.

Setsuna Mar - posted on 11/28/2014

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look for some one new... but a good guy that you know wont hurt you like that

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