Anne - posted on 04/14/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )
I have been with my partner for almost 5 years. We bought a house together and each have a teen and each a school aged child. We have differences in parenting regarding several issues. I never pushed the step mom thing and took a more laid back approach as to not push them away but I do stand my ground for a few rules. Keeping your area tidy, helping out the family like setting the table, respecting each other...etc.. I eat healthy and my kids always have too but he always caves and when we have his kids he.buys junk food and pop all the time. I've expressed concern over lack of nutrients being provided to them but he doesn't seem to care.
He moved the kids out for over a year due to not wanting them to do chores as they play the poor me role a lot. They moved back in and along with it came estrangement. Now here we are several years later, the kids won't even say hi to me, I asked if they liked their gift and they say yup, no thanks or anything. I have to prompt hubby to tell them to say thank you. When I ask for rooms to be tidied up, I am met with whining and ultimately nothing is done as dad does not enforce anything. My son is resenting the kids as he is asked by step dad to do chores that the other kids didn't do or were not told to do. Bottom line is anytime I say that I feel distance it ultimately becomes my fault that the kids are that way because I don't do anything with them, talk to them, etc....but how can you continue to want to do these things when the kids obviously aren't interested, they're rude, selfish and have zero respect for anyone. I am at my wits end and don't know if I'm doing the right thing by leaving.
Thanks for reading my rant. Any input is appreciated