Mommy Under Pressure - posted on 04/08/2012 ( 121 moms have responded )
What do I do?? My ex husband (who took every dime I made while we were married for 18 years) died three weeks ago. We have two biological children aged 19 and 8. In the divorce agreement we have to maintain a minimum $100,000 life insurance policy making each the other's beneficiary until both kids reach 18. Well a fatal heart attack at 46 years old brought to light that he had only half that!!! He left behind over $65,000 in pathetic debt. When assets are sold my kids will be lucky to have about $7000 tops!!! This is a man he has made $100,000 a year for years!! Worst money manager ever!!!! NOTHING is left for his kids whom he liked to tell everyone he took care if financially. Bull!! His parents live in a MINIMUM $350,000 home, go to AZ every winter, have magazine quality furnishings, golf club memberships, etc..tell me that they CAN'T AFFORD to pay for his funeral and refuse to do so!!! (Now I know where he learned his money management skills!!!) They are expecting me to PAY FOR THE FUNERAL (he's my EX husband) and to pay off the $8,600 he still owed on his car because they want their grandson to have a decent vehicle to drive. That will leave me around $20,000 to raise my through through his last three years of college and get my daughter from the second grade on through college!! I also am self employed so health insurance for the three of us will now be $6000 a year with a $6,000 yearly deductible!! They claim to have the grandchildren's best interest at heart but, they don't have any problem taking money out of their funds that are meant to replace their father's income!! They expect ME to pay for everything since I'm the life insurance beneficiary. This is for my children, not me! They just don't want to be financially inconvenienced by this. My children are extremely close to these people and I want to maintain this relationship for them but, SERIOUSLY????? What do I do?? Please please help me!!!