Fussy baby or physical pain? Never stops crying some days

Socha - posted on 11/03/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Hello,
I'm a FTM, and my baby seems like he's either in pain (10 weeks old), or just plain spoiled by us. We always pick him up when he cries, and now that I'm home alone without the grandparents, certain things need to be done around the house.
Some things about him (he's exclusively BF, well-baby visits seem normal so far, but not sure if I need a specialist):
-he hates the swing
-he hates being in a sling
-he hates the car seat. 50% chance he'll sleep in the car. Otherwise, he'll scream/cry
-he was born with an angry cry. He almost always cries in an angry way.
-I thought I wasn't feeding him enough, but there are days he cries and only stops when I feed him (we're talking sometimes every hour!
-He even gets mad when the second let-down is too slow for him. Screams some more. So far, he's got 6+ wet diapers, 1+ poop diaper/day, and is gaining weight. Doctors have said to keep BF. I still don't feel adequate, seeing as I can only pump 1-2 oz at a time, and even then, there is no time when he's always on me!
-He doesn't know how to take naps, and frankly, I don't know what else to do: swaddling, shushing, driving him around (of course, after checking/changing his diaper and clothes if needed, making sure he's fed, etc).
-he sleeps while/after nursing and wakes up as soon as I detach him. He hardly every detaches on his own.
-he does burp a lot, although it's not easy to get him to burp at night. Yes, he was checked for a tongue tie, which he had a very subtle form of, got that taken care of (lasered), but still not sure he's using his mouth muscles correctly yet.
-he takes a good 1-2 hours to go to sleep at night. Then he sleeps for a good 3-4 hours, which seem like heaven. Then he feeds, goes back to bed, and gets up every 1-2 hours. Not complaining about the night, thank God.
-when he's out and about (at someone's house or someone comes to visit), he's a perfect angel (takes them in/watches, or falls asleep).

I know I'm not doing everything correctly. I really feel he fits the "fussy baby" described by Dr. Sears (have yet to get the book, though, but have a feeling it'll just say, deal with it, pick him up). My arms/shoulders are sore. How is it possible that anyone can get anything done around the house without letting the poor guy cry it out? I'm not sure it's the best method with a fussy baby, but man, what else can I do?
-He has not been diagnosed with colic, nor reflux. But I have a feeling it's reflux, since he started spitting up after almost every meal in his second month...my friends/family say it's normal, but I hope he's not feeling too much pain from it.

Any and all advice is welcome, esp. from moms with fussy babies who seem inconsolable!

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Socha - posted on 11/03/2013

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Forgot to mention the worst part: when I pick him up, he starts screaming even louder. He's not consoled by me and it makes it feel like he hates me.

I literally BF him every 2 hours during the day (maybe about 10 min each side before he seems to complain about the second let down being too slow), which seems like the few times that he's not crying (until I detach him). He also does not cry for the 10 minutes he plays on his play mat in the morning. But that's about it. He even hates when I change his diaper unless I do a song and dance for him.

I'm literally a shell of a person. Please help.

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