Lorrainne - posted on 07/18/2014 ( 10 moms have responded )
I have a 17 month old son that receives no support from his father. Financially nor physically. We can not coparent due to lack of respect, trust and honesty. He has lied about our son having his own bed to sleep in since he was 6 months. He cohabitates with him and the company he keeps. Our son received a black eye bc he fell out of his king size bed (multiple times), which tells me hes not watching him. He has picked him up and dropped off (hour or so at a time) when he chooses versus communicating and abiding by the arrangements. He travels out of town, parties with friends (and has our son sometimes) and does what he chooses but does not financially support our son with day care expenses. Example: He went out of town for a week and didn't pay his week of day care but says he is "broke" and "struggling" all the time. Every conversation ends in arguing because he wants to have a relationship with our son without having to coparent. He feels that I do not need to know what goes on with his household and what he does. Which I do not agree with (the coparenting part). He has admitted to lying about things (including the bed) and stated he will continue to lie just so he can see his son and do what he wants. He has dropped off our son twice already with a diaper full of urine that it flooded through his pants to his car seat. Every time he has him I have to supply a car seat. In the beginning I had to supply a diaper bag of what our son needed (milk, food, clothes, etc.) bc he didnt have it. I accepted that we both have moved on and we have our own lives. However, that does not mean we do not coparent for our son. I have also communicated that our son is the priority and his well being comes first. Recently, I communicated twice that visitation at this time is not a good idea since he can not be trusted as a parent and our sons well being is at risk. He got very verbally abusive and defensive. I have finally filed for child support, no longer let him stay over night and told him we can resume visitation/custody after we go to court. How do you deal with someone who is irresponsible and immature? What do you do?