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I'm wondering how any of you step-moms/dads have dealt with the big celebrations that come up later in a childs life- graduations, weddings, etc. I have a young step-son and at this point with everything that's gone on with his mother, I just avoid her at all costs. She is incredibly jealous, selfish, narcissistic and has repeatedly hurt my step-son by telling him his father and I don't love him, won't want him around for years and years now. She has stalked us, harassed us, threatened us with restraining orders and denial of visitation over absolutely nothing. No contact is GREAT now. But what about when I have to see her? Her son knows that she hates us. My husband doesn't care but I just can't be around her or her equally insane and vindictive partner (it's a woman who has no children and is obsessed with my step-son). Should I avoid future celebrations that she will attend in order to avoid my step-son having any issues or fears about the day being ruined? I only want what's best for him and don't mind taking a back seat if it means he can relax and not be anxious about these events.