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HI, So I’m 21 years old and my boyfriend soon to be husband is 26.
Now let me start off by saying I knew what I was getting into when I decided to be in a relationship with him, but because of recent news it’s become a little difficult for me to handle and cope with what’s going on.
You see he had an ex-girlfriend they were together for eight years their relationship turned sour because in lack of terms she was a BITCH. He doesn’t bring her up to me often and when he does it’s in comparison.
She liked that movie too, your both gemini’s. etc. I told him how this made me feel and he has been able to stop comparing me to her which I do appreciated.
He has a daughter who is three going on four and he hasn’t been able to see her for a few months because of the fact that his ex won’t let him, I always stay supportive even got her a few things for when we do get the chance to see her.
But yesterday we found out that the next baby due In august about two weeks before his birthday is a boy, and im completely heartbroken. She’s already given him a girl and now she’s given him a boy. I feel as though there’s nothing left I can give him. He always tells me he would love to have two kids by me, but it wouldn’t be the same. I know having his second son wouldn’t make his face light up like the first one. When she found out I was in the picture and that we were getting married she told him she would be changing his daughters last name to hers and that his son would not have his first and last name.
And as messed up as that is I hope she’s being serious and telling him the truth because if that’s the case then I can have his next so and give him his name, but then does that make me as bad as her?
He tells me all the time that I’m nothing like any of his ex’s. I make him back the old him that he used to be that he likes, he says I’ll be a great mother to his kids and mine and he knows I’ll be a good roll mother for them unlike his ex. He says he’s never had another girl do for him like I do for him, and he believes out lives together will be amazing.
I hear him when he says these things, I do. But I cant help how I feel inside and I told myself I would never marry a man with a family because of this reason…
What do I do