Ashly - posted on 06/10/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )
I have been with my bf for a year (we have known each other for 13) I went to school with him and his son's mother. They were not a couple at time of conception. I know both sides of the story (from him and her). It boils down to this. She wanted to get married and have a family at 21 he didn't. They broke up but continued being intimate with one another. She gets pregnant and tells him he has to marry her, he declines as he wishes to finish school. He has had to sue her twice to get any kind of visitation rights, he pays a hefty amount of child support (which she brags about with her pictures of vacations, manis, pedie, expensive clothes etc.) All this while sending her son in torn up clothes and shoes that do not fit him.
I had reached out to her to make visitation easier, we planned a calendar a year long. She recently married last year and had a new child. The problem is she is refusing to allow her son to see his grandparents on my bfs side, but is pushing and advertising all the time her son gets with his and I quote "Dad" and his parents (step grandparents). She doesn't tell father when she leaves son at the step grandparents and even her parents (which is against the custody papers she had drawn up). Her and I were getting along but now I get zero response out of her. I even went as far as to send her a gift for the new baby and flowers on mothers day. The only response I receive is I need to know my place. Coming from a divorced home where my dad wanted nothing to do with me, it tears me up inside to see her pretend to be this loving mother to the world and a christian, yet she alienates the father and his family from the child. She only allows one phone call a week and that is if she isn't "busy".....How do I make this situation better?