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My fiancé and I are getting married in a few months and are planning to try to conceive a baby on our honeymoon. He's in the military reserves and also works for the government so at least three or more times during the year he's gone for at least a week or up to a month at a time going to classes or what not. When he leaves for classes I always have a really hard time with it. I have depression and when he is gone it feels like the end of the world. I’m in our house all by myself going days without really having a conversation with anyone expect our cat and dog so I get very lonely.
Currently were living in Virginia with all of my family living in Pennsylvania and only his dad lives around us in Maryland. Although we have been living in Virginia for over a year I still don't have any friends here which is another reason I get lonely.
Since we are talking about having a child my mind is thinking differently.I have started to think of what my life would be like after we have a child and he has to go away for a month, me working full time and me not having any family or friends really around to help me out with a with a newborn child. I want to move back to Pennsylvania to be closer to my family so at least when he would leave I would be able to get help from family but he doesn't seem to understand why and says he would be unhappy living there. But the truth is I am unhappy living here with no family or friends. I really miss having my family and friends closer to me and with the thought of us having a child it's hard to imagine them not being near me. I love him so much and don't want him to be unhappy like I am right now with were we live but I also have been dreaming of us having a child since I meet him.I don’t know how I would even make it being a single mother working a full time job with no help for a whole month. I just don't know what to do at this point.
Any advice would be appreciated.