Atyler1973 - posted on 01/09/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )
I am engaged to a terrific man and in October him and his almost 18 year old daughter moved in. She was set to move in with her mother during Christmas. At first I was so disappointed that she was planning to live with her mom but that changed a few weeks in to them living here. I soon realized his daughter would not lift a finger to clean up after herself, her room was a constant mess, her bathroom never cleaned, and she was totally disrespectful to her father. She talks down to him frequently and expects him to do almost everything for her. I have never heard her say thank you(or even a compliment) for the dinners cooked, food bought, Christmas gifts-nothing. She will not lift a finger to help clean anything unless he asks her to. She quit her job to move in with her mom and the mom decided not to take her. She is crappy with her dad every chance she gets. I don't want to sound like I am nitpicking but my peace is gone. When I come home from work and I see her car in the driveway I just want to keep driving.
Here's the huge issue. My fiancée tries to discipline her so that she will help out more but it never works. It is a constant battle. Now I have an unemployed almost 18 year old living in my home with no respect for her father or my home. I feel like a horrible person for wishing she had moved in with her mom but I am not used to dealing with a child like her. My 22 year old daughter was not perfect but she did show me respect and I am having a huge problem. I am stressed all of the time. She has not gone out to look for employment. She is in her senior year and is now supposed to move in with her mom in June. I am scared to death that is not going to happen (like it didn't in December) and by then him and I will be married. We are set to marry in April.
I would like your thoughts on this. If I am horrible for feeling this way-please let me know. Thank you