Getting my 9 month old to sleep in his room & bed

Rachelle - posted on 10/27/2014 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My son has slept in our room, in a little fold up portable bed, since we brought him home from the hospital after birth. He since started teething, so he was up every 1 1/2 to 2 hours. Since I work full time, I got lazy and started putting him in bed with me so he'd sleep. Now...2 months later he is still in our bed and I'm trying to get him back into his own crib, in his own room.

HELP! :) I can't let him cry it out until he falls asleep because we live in an apartment. I'm not opposed to letting him cry, but 20 minutes or longer is a little much considering our living situation. If I hold him until he's drowsy or even asleep, he will wake up as soon as I go to lay him down. If my husband does it, it's hit or miss as to whether our son will wake or stay asleep.

I need advice. All tips are welcomed. I will try anything.

Thanks!!

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Chet - posted on 10/27/2014

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We coslept with all four of our kids and they all started sleeping independently when they were ready. It was the easiest thing for us to do.

I actually felt that our kids slept quite well as newborns and then 6 to 18 months was the hardest time with sleep because if it wasn't one thing it was another - teething, developmental bursts, reverse cycling with nursing, dreaming, separation anxiety, colds, growth spurt, being overtired, etc. Cosleeping was the easiest way for us to get through it all.

I should say that 6 to 18 months was never solidly bad, but each kid had at least two or three rough spots during that time.

I would start by side carriing the crib next to your bed if you have the space. It's a good step toward getting him back into a crib if that's what you want to do, and if nothing else, it gives you more space.

http://www.freewebs.com/sidecarcrib/
http://sewingmama.hubpages.com/hub/sidec...

Essentially, you need to take the front rail off the crib, and get the crib mattress up to the level of the bed mattress. We had our crib up on blocks. Then you stuff something firm between the outside crib rail and the crib mattress so the crib mattress and your mattress are pushed tight together. People usually use high density foam (like upholstery foam), pool noodles, or we used a piece of sonotube from the hardware store wrapped in a nice baby quilt.

Rose - posted on 10/28/2014

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I had the same problems with my son. Since he's used to sleep with you and in the same room its tough. Now that your trying to get him in his own room and in his crib he's not use to it. Try a music box sometimes soft music will help comfort him. Or what I did was a lullaby bear crib projector. It plays soft music with shining cute bears on the ceiling. You can also try one of these teddy bears that have different settings they have soft music and also have something that sounds like a heart beat. It was great and worked for me. Hope you can do it. And wish you the best of luck.. 😃


-Rosie.

Sarah - posted on 10/27/2014

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The one huge drawback from co-sleeping and attachment parenting is baby does not learn to self soothe or fall asleep independently.
It is a fallacy that we are born knowing how to settle ourselves and also that we know how to fall asleep. I know it sounds crazy, and I did not believe it myself, until I lived through what you face.
You can try to continue to lay baby down awake but full tummy and drowsy and hopefully he will start falling asleep on his own. You CAN let him cry it out, your neighbors can tolerate one rough week. If they are parents they will understand. Can you spend a few days at Grandma, other family or a good friend? Take the crib you will put baby in with the same sheets etc. it is the environment you need to keep the same not the house. The cry it out method, while controversial, is brief.
In that window where baby is tuckered out from crying (sad, I know) he will lay down, thump his foot, rock himself, suck his thumb or twirl his hair...these are self soothing behaviors and he will use them when he is frustrated or to fall asleep.
I know how you feel, I have four kids and it is so hard.to hear them cry! But in the end you are doing him a favor to learn these skills.
BTW have you tried a pacifier? Not all moms like them, but it was easier to break them of the "Yummy" then it was to hear them scream.

Amy - posted on 10/27/2014

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Hi Rachelle!

I have had friends who were successful with "sleep positioners" that keep the baby from rolling over. It gives them the feeling of closeness he's used to and feels like he's being held.

Something like this:
http://www.rakuten.com/prod/deluxe-lengt...

Fortunately I never experienced the "crib transition". I put both my babies in their crib, in their own room, from day 1. It's one of those things that is harder at first, but pays off later. :)

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Rachelle - posted on 10/30/2014

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Very cool. Willing to try anything. :) I've never heard of or seen this before.

Rachelle - posted on 10/30/2014

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Thank you for your post. I have tried a pacifier at different times throughout his 9 months and he refuses it every time. He absolutely won't take one. I guess I won't have that to deal with down the road, but then again we have to find another soothing method aside from me. lol

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