Morgan - posted on 04/15/2014 ( 9 moms have responded )
Alright so this may be long and I apologize in advanced, I have a lawyer but want advice and information from people who have lived similar situations.
When I became pregnant the father was at the time my boyfriend, he denied any possibility that it was his child when I let him know. Obviously he was not ready to grow up and got into drugs and theft. I quickly broke it off when I was about 3 months pregnant because he would not step up and claim the child. Towards the middle of my pregnancy I moved an hour away and the father could not care less. No big deal because I met a new guy who throughout the course of my pregnancy became my best friend then we became serious. When I gave birth to Reagan Sue my boyfriend was there day in and day out helping to support the two of us. He even allowed me to take a year off work so I could spend time with my baby. I did not put the father on the birth certificate due to the fact he was not involved and I did not care about child support. The father's mother found out and was outraged and hired a lawyer and an DNA test was issued. Reagan and I hired a lawyer and went and completed out half of the DNA test then waited for his to be done.
My boyfriend and I got married almost 6 months ago (fast I know but when you know you know) and we went to lawyer to get Reagan adopted and last name changed to his (since he has been there since day one and she even calls him daddy)
We went to my lawyer to see if the DNA test has been completed by the other half and it had been so we refiled for termination/adoption.
Now a year since the DNA test has been ordered and almost 18 months since my daughter was born we are still waiting on them to comply with the court order.
My lawyer said at the end of May we are going to refile and speak with a judge. I am extremely nervous about this. What are the chances that the other party will receive a second chance and the adoption is denied???
He has not paid a penny or even seen Reagan. He never asked about her or even truly claimed her as his own and never complied with the court ordered DNA test that his mother requested a year ago. My husband on the other hand loved this baby girl and has been there since day one providing for her and being there 100%. My lawyer says the odds are in our favor but I need to hear it from people who have lived it.