getting my girl home

Zoe - posted on 01/26/2016 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My 13 y old girl has been living with her dad latly he does have reserdensmal right since 2011 but she is self harming and I no somthinl is wrong help me

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Jodi - posted on 01/27/2016

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It isn't necessarily dad's fault that she is self-harming, as kids self-harm for a whole variety of reasons. But it is his responsibility (and yours) to make sure she is getting the help she needs. Making sure she is in counselling should be your first step. If dad is not supportive of this, call child protection so that they can make sure she is getting the support she needs. It is highly possible they have already been called if school has become aware of the self-harming.

Raye - posted on 01/27/2016

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Jazzy, I think "reserdensmal" means residential, meaning the child lives primarily with him.

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JazzyGirl - posted on 01/27/2016

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What is reserdensmal rights? I'm assuming that means legally. I'm not sure if that cuts off your visitation or restricts you from seeing her, but if you do still get to see her and she spends a good amount of time with you on a daily basis and overnights you should take her to go see someone like a family psychologist, counselor, therapist, whatever. There are plenty of low cost resources you just have to look them up or go to your local social services office and ask about them. I'm sure they will be able to help you out. She may not like it but in the long run it'll help her out. The biggest step is admitting there's a problem and getting help for it. Okay your next option if she is not living with you would be still to find all the resources you can as i spoke of before and then reporting to them what's happening and they will either intervene or point you in the right direction. It can be a huge mary go round trying to get this done but hang in there mommy you're doing the best you can. I hope that something good comes out of this and in the end you will be able to find the resources and the help that your child needs. Just remember to try and do all that you can to stop it in it's tracks before it goes too far.

Dove - posted on 01/27/2016

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If she is self harming... she needs to be in counseling immediately. Have you talked to him about getting her some counseling? Perhaps the two of you can go as well to find out how best to help her right now.

Raye - posted on 01/27/2016

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If she is self-harming, then she needs counseling. No matter who she's living with, she needs help to get through her feelings that are causing her to self-harm. Have you talked to her father? Don't accuse him of being a bad father, because kids can hide a lot from their parents. You should both want to in the best interest of the child, and be able to speak calmly and rationally about it. It's not anyone's fault, you just need to get her help.

Michelle - posted on 01/27/2016

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You need to find a lawyer and go to court.
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