getting my son to sleep in his room

Cassy - posted on 07/31/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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My son will be 4 in 11 days. He has never slept thru the night. Until recently. I gave in and put the crib mattress on the floor in my room. Now he sleeps thru the night. But I can't get him to sleep in his room. He wakes up and comes in my room. Sleeps on the floor. I am his security. He's never been in daycare or with a babysitter. He has only spent 2 night away from me just recently. And slept fine. I have tried everything from bribes to taking things away to rewards. I went thru the whole putting him back in his room. For weeks and months. Nothing works. Any advice would be great. He is a big boy and I want him to be able to sleep on his own.

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Bek - posted on 11/10/2013

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Wow. Mine is 4 on the 15th & I'm going thru the same thing & he's never been away from me or in day care either! Only difference is mine actually sleeps in bed with me & hubby is on the couch now! PLZ let me no if u get any good suggestions,

Cassy - posted on 08/01/2009

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Well me mad it thru the night last night in his own room. I told him if he came in my room then no TV today. He did wet the bed but I think he had too much to drink to late last night. So we'll see how tonight goes.

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My 3 yr old always wants to sleep in my room. In her case I think it is to be with her daddy who works quite a bit so I am sure it is an issue of missing him. I have given up on fighting her. It seems to make the matter worse. We are always told to pick & choose our battles when it comes to raising our kids & I think this is one of those things that they will out grow in time. My 8 yr old sleeps in her room every night & so does my 2 yr old, but my 3 yr old wants no part of sleeping in her room. She starts there nightly & always ends up in my room. Eventually she will outgrow this. All kids do. I do praise her when she makes it through the night in her room & with no accidents!

Mysti - posted on 07/31/2009

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I had this problem with my youngest, I just went in there and layed down in the bed with him read him a story, and rubbed his back until he fell asleep, after a couple of nights, I moved to the chair in his room while he was laying down, then sat by the door. It took about 10 nights, but now he will get his cup, give us kisses and to his bed he goes. We read a story say our prayers and I leave the room... MAKE SURE you DO NOT close the door until he says it's ok.

Erin - posted on 07/31/2009

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i have had trouble getting my 13month old son to sleep in his own room...tried everything,and i have come to the conclusion that they are only little for such a short time...I know he will go into his room when he is ready.
I work,and he is in daycare and i look forward to snuggling my little boy every night...I think have a strong bond because of this.

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I tried all of the same things you did except the Nanny thing. My son started in my bed until he was about 4 then I put his crib mattress in my room next to the bed and he accepted that. He would always wake up whenever I put him in his bed and he would crawl into my bed. You aren't doing anything wrong if he sleeps in your room and when he is ready to stop, he will let you know. Think about the millions of people around the world who have no choice but to have their children sleeping in the same place as their parents.

Tiffany - posted on 07/31/2009

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It's a very hard thing to do . My 7 yr old and 4 yr old come in our room almost every night. Our 7 yr old comes in very quietly and usually we won't know she is there until morning. The thing is I used to be the same way. Hopefully they will grow out of it. It's also possible by the time he starts school, that could be something you try. "Now that you're a big boy and going to school, you should be a big boy and sleep in your bed." It's worth a shot.

Cassy - posted on 07/31/2009

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Thanks!! I don't punish him. I do things like he can earn new things. I tried all kinds of different making the room special. Posters blankets sheets. Things he liked or wanted in there. I tried tv in his room. I let him fall asleep downstairs and put him in bed. I tried the Nanny 911 thing. Yeah right I spent more time falling asleep than him. No matter how I do it he ends up in my room. Use to be in my bed. I told him no more of that. So now he just comes in and sleeps on the floor and doesn't even let me know he's in there.

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Is started to say that if you are worried as to the cause behind your son's bedtime, perhaps consulting a child psychologist could be helpful. I did take my son and even at a young age, they have great ways to get information that may help.

Dorian - posted on 07/31/2009

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i tried the nanny 911 method and put them in thiere own bed...move farther and farther away everynit until they fall asleep but the trick is when your'e sitting thiere on the floor do not make eye contact or speak ...it worked for 4 of my 6 and it worked perfect when i did it rite...good luck

Jamie - posted on 07/31/2009

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Try to find a new "security blanket"; blanket, music to go to sleep w/, animal. . . Go through routine bed time things: bath, reading a book, putting on pjs, tuck in, prayer in his room. Plus if he is about to start school tell him he needs to be a big boy and big boys sleep in their room. And I know my son for a long time was an only child and never played in his room, so try to get him like his room "its his space". Decorate it w/paintings and drawlings he did. . .

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My son slept in my room until he was 7 and then he informed me he was ready for his bed which was always there. My son had suffered an abusive trauma as a toddler and bedtime was terrifying for him. The only time my son went to sleep without hassle was when we went camping which started at age 4. Even if I got my son into his bed after he fell asleep, I would wake up in the night and find him on my bed. Family bed is a common practice in other countries. You aren't doing anything wrong by having him in your room. My son is now 21 years old and he was not harmed by sleeping in my room for those years. I would do it again in a minute. Bribing or punishing him for something that is obviously emotional isn't going to resolve the problem. If you want to

Callie - posted on 07/31/2009

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My son who is 5 will not sleep in his room what so ever. Well I take that back sometimes he will annouce that is going to lay down in his bed. I've settled for letting him crash on the couch. It is way way way better then him sleeping with me and my husband. It is a battle I will win. My baby brother slept with my Mom until he was like 11 years old no joke! I will not let that happen to me. Good luck! But seriously try the couch...like put on his favorite movie and let him fall asleep watching that.

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