Alex - posted on 09/17/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )
So, I am a mother and step-mother. I am currently "picking up the pieces" of my Fiance's last failed relationship, by this I mean that the children had to go through a lot of neglect from their mother and now they need one, more than ever. ****edit PLEASE do not confuse "picking up the pieces" for being a "rebound" he separated from his ex years ago, and she was negligent LONG before I came around and became a part of our family!**** (Long story short, she got severely depressed, cheated on my fiance when they were together and got into drugs/alcohol. A huge, HUGE, mess.) Now, I KNOW that it is not my job to fix what I didn't break...but I can help them cope...My way of doing so is providing packed lunches, entertainment, a shoulder to cry on when they want it, keeping my home clean and neatly decorated, etc.
I just need more ways to be "crafty", fun, organized and remain frugal whilst doing so.
A little background:
Currently, I am working full-time. 9-5, Monday-Friday.
I am a full-time student.
I have three children. Ages: 8, 7, and 2.5 (the eldest are my step children)
My Fiance works 55 hours a week, never consistent days off (UGH, I hate this but I deal with it)
I am 22 years old.
and last but not least, I am absolutely DESPERATE to remain the Stepford wife/mom. I know there is room for mistakes, but with these children losing so much from their biological mother...(She is 35 and is dating a BOY, MY age)...She ran off and now is living in a cockroach infested apartment...in the ghetto..trying to get pregnant with her boyfriend because he is African American and she (and I quote) "wants a 'Little nigglet'" Please don't be offended by what I am saying, these are her words verbatim, not mine. I am by no means against Mixed couples (my son's father was Chinese) ..but I find the reason that she is with him to be vulgar and racist.
With everything that is going on between the children and their mother...I just don't want to make them suffer for any more shortcomings.
So...I suppose I am looking for more distractions for them? Organizing tips? Step-parent advise? Anything to make their lives and MY life...easier.